Tell your teenage daughter, she can’t go out with her friends this Saturday night and the next thing you’ll see is her giving you one loud AAAGH and slam her bedroom door right in front of you. Looks familiar, right? No one wants to have a nagging mom, but one study has shown that being a pushy mom bring benefits to both mother and daughter.
The study carried out at the University of Essex has shown that girls whose parents have high expectations for them and more importantly they’re frequently nagged about them are more likely to grow up to be successful and self – sufficient women.
Researchers, led by Ericka Rascon – Ramirez, studied the lives of more than 15,000 girls between the ages of 13 and 14 from 2004 to 2010 and identified mothers as the parent who has the greatest nagging power. The study has confirmed that high parental standards play a significant part in the girls’ major life choices.
More precisely, these girls are: less likely to become pregnant as teenagers, be unemployed or get stuck in low – wage jobs and they’re more likely to perform well at school and go to university.
I believe most moms, and dads as well will agree that being a nagging parent is not easy at all. Getting tough with a teenage daughter, in most cases, results in sulkiness, eye rolls, and door slams. But, the study shows that nagging has a deep effect on kids even when they react in these ways.
In reference to this, Rascon – Ramirez said: “In many cases, we succeeded in doing what we believed was more convenient for us, even when this was against our parents’ will. But no matter how hard we tried to avoid our parents’ recommendations, it is likely that they ended up influencing, in a more subtle manner, choices that we had considered extremely personal.”
She also noted: “What our parents expected about our school choices was, very likely, a major determinant of our decisions about conceiving a child or not during our teenage years.”
So, if your teenage daughter rolls her eyes and gets sulky when you give her advice about school and warn her of the setbacks that go with being a teenage mum, don’t lose hope. Your words are in her head and it’s likely they’ll stay there for good.
And if moms who have average expectations wonder whether their teenage daughters are more likely to become pregnant at that age, the study showed that parents with high standards can decrease their teenage daughter’s chances of becoming pregnant by 4% compared to parents with average expectations.
And as far as boys are concerned, there’s no reason to believe that parental pressure won’t have an influence over the major choices they have to make in life.
So, all of you moms and dads out there, feel free to nag your kids about your expectations for them because they’ll thank you for it later. In fact, I’m thankful to my mom, as well, for constantly reminding me of what my priorities should be and warning me of the possible consequences I’d have to face for not paying attention to her advice.
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