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Letting Him Go Is Hard, But Sometimes It’s The Best Thing You Can Do For Yourself

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All good things come to an end perhaps sounds like a cliché but it’s true and sometimes it can be quite painful. This is especially so when it’s your relationship that has come to an end.

You deeply fell in love with him. You let him into your heart and devoted every single part of you to him.  He was the reason behind all your smiles and moments of happiness. He was the one that made your heart beat like crazy. You had a great time together, but you also went through many problems and tests. You fought hard to preserve your relationship but somehow things got out of control.

Many times, you heard that little voice in your head telling you: “You need to let him go.” It sounded awful. Unbearable. You couldn’t stand listening to it, so you tried to keep it quiet.

You never thought that you would have to tell him goodbye. You believed you were meant to be together. You believed he was your soulmate.

You couldn’t accept the reality that many things changed in your relationship. You couldn’t accept the fact that the love you once felt for each other faded away.

And don’t try to think of the reasons why things ended between you the way they did. Maybe your characters didn’t match any longer. Maybe the chemistry and connection faded away over time. Maybe you started having too many problems and fights. Maybe you learned that you were headed in different directions. Or maybe you realized that you weren’t right for each other and that the universe had different plans for you.

But, that’s how things work. Life is not perfect. Love is not perfect too. Relationships are supposed to make you feel happy and emotionally fulfilled. Yet, if they only worry you and make you feel sad and heavy, it means it’s time for you to let go.

It’s time you let go of the person who doesn’t bring the best out of you anymore. The person who no longer pays attention to you. The person whose feelings for you have cooled down a long time ago.

I know it’s painful to let go of the person who was once everything to you. The person you loved unconditionally. But sometimes that’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

And no! I’m not trying to say that you should give up without a fight. You let go of someone only after you’ve exhausted all your means to save your relationship. Only after you’ve given your best to make things work.

After all, there’s no use fighting for someone who doesn’t bother losing you. Someone who has given up on you a long time ago. Someone who has given up without a fight.

There’s no use staying in a relationship that drains you emotionally and physically. A relationship that makes you feel weak, confused, empty, and lost.

You can’t expect to change someone into the person you think you want them to be. You can’t change someone who does not want to be changed. You can’t make someone love you. Love is never forced.

You owe it to yourself to accept the truth. The truth that he’s not the right for you and that you can’t allow yourself to hold on to something that is no longer there. You can’t hope that some miracle will happen and save your relationship.

You need to know when it’s time to walk away.

You need to know that letting someone go is not a failure. It is a loss and it is painful, but it’s not a failure. As a matter of fact – it’s one of the greatest lessons life can teach you.

It teaches you that love doesn’t always look and feel like you thought it would. It teaches you that sometimes love doesn’t last forever. That soulmates aren’t dropped aside your door. They are found after you face many challenges, ups and downs, and struggles in your relationships.

It teaches you that true love can strike you when you least expect it.

And that’s why parting ways is sometimes the most reasonable thing to do. You’ll lose one person but this will open other paths for you. Paths that will lead you towards your happiness, towards your peace.

Paths that will take you to the man who will realize both your outside and inner beauty and worth the moment he sees you. The man who will be more than willing to put in the effort with you. The man who will know how to love, respect, and value you the best because you deserve nothing less than that. The man who will know that you’re worth every effort.