10 Important Truths About Being Single Over 40

Whether you’re in your 20s, 30s, or 40s, rolling solo is nothing to be ashamed or afraid of. Being single in your 40s doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It doesn’t mean you’re unable to maintain a relationship. It doesn’t mean it’s too late for you to find the love of your life.

While it’s true that most people in their 40s are well established in their careers,  have been in long-term relationships, and have gained enough experience to approach their relationships more maturely and responsibly, you’d be surprised to know that many people who are in their 40s have many things that they are still figuring out.

And there’s nothing wrong with this. Because being in your 40s means being in the most beautiful and precious decade of your life – a decade in which you have plenty of things to be thrilled about and plenty of things to still learn.

Here are 10 truths you need to know about being single over 40:

1. Being single gives you more time to nurture your other relationships.

When you’re single, you have plenty of time to hang out with your friends and members of your family. After all, who said that romantic relationships are the most important ones in a person’s life? Indeed, being there for the people who truly love and care about you is something they’ll appreciate a lot.

2. Your happiness depends solely on yourself.

Your happiness and sense of fulfillment don’t depend on anyone. You’re the only person who gets to decide how you’ll live your life and what ways you’ll choose to find the happiness you deserve.

Therefore, remember: your relationship status doesn’t determine and shape your happiness. On the other hand, a poor, messy relationship or marriage can destroy your happiness and drain the life out of you.

3. Dating allows you to meet new people.

Once you turn 40, meeting new people and socializing may become quite a challenge. However, one reason why being single over 4o is good is that when you go out on dates with new people several times a month, you’re expanding your social circles. So, even if you don’t meet the love of your life, you could end up meeting someone who will later become your best friend.

4. You have fewer financial worries.

And it’s no wonder. Just think about it this way: when you’re single, you only have yourself to look after and when you’re married, well, a few more people come into the picture. Living with a husband/wife and raising kids is expensive indeed. No matter how much money you make, there will always be costs and credit debts you’ll have to take care of.

5. You are more motivated to stay fit.

When you are not in a relationship, you have more free time to invest in activities that help you stay in shape and maintain your physical health. Things, such as regularly going to the gym, eating healthy food, and walking in nature can easily be done since your schedule is not that tight.

6. You have more free time to do the things you enjoy doing.

Whether it’s hanging out with your friends, shopping for clothes, cycling in nature, hiking, or just watching movies on Netflix all day long, when you’re single, you have more time to do it because you don’t have a partner or kids whose schedules usually dictate the way you spend your time.

7. Last-minute holidays are no longer a problem.

Do you want to take that 5-day trip to Rome which you’ve wanted to take for a while now? Or do you feel like calling in sick and spending the entire weekend at the spa? Well, guess what? No one is stopping you from doing that. You can go wherever you want and most importantly, whenever you want.

8. You boost your self-confidence.

When you’re single, you have more time to reflect on your innermost feelings, thoughts, and desires. You have more time to figure out what your main priorities in life are and find the right direction in life. You also have more time to look deep down inside of you, find, and then face your greatest insecurities and fears.

9. You don’t have to deal with the stress that comes with relationships.

It’s not a secret that romantic relationships have their fair share of negative emotions, stress, and fights. These are problems that individuals who are single simply don’t have to worry about.

10. You grow both personally and professionally.

Rolling solo allows you to choose and dictate the course of your own life. It allows you to choose where you want to get in life and at what pace you’ll get there. It allows you to leave your comfort zone and do things you’ve always wanted to do but didn’t because your relationships prevented you.

Being single allows you to learn new things about the world around you and gain new perspectives on life. It allows you to search for your happiness the way you want. It allows you to live your life the way you want.