Emotional intelligence is the intangible “something” in each of us that affects our behavior, our decisions, and the way we conduct ourselves through our interactions with others with the purpose of achieving positive outcomes.
And because of its intangibility, it is difficult to measure emotional intelligence. However, dr. Travis Bradberry shares the revealing signs that someone has a high EQ after analyzing millions of people and identifying their behaviors.
1. You Are A Good Judge Of Character
Being socially aware is something that goes hand in hand with being emotionally intelligent. People can’t surprise you. You can read them like an open book, and understand their intentions and motivations. You can see clearly what’s underneath their surface and what they are going through.
2. You Have A Robust Emotional Vocabulary
Everyone experiences emotions, but not everyone can identify them accurately. People who possess high EQs are the masters of identifying and precisely describing their emotions. For instance, while many would say they feel ‘bad’, an emotionally intelligent person can say they are feeling ‘stressed,’ ‘anxious,’ ‘depressed,’ ‘frustrated,’ ‘irritable,’ and so on.
3. You Know How To Say ‘NO’
Emotional intelligence is all about self-control – the one’s ability to avoid acting from impulse and delaying gratification. When it comes to self-control, saying ‘no’ might be the greatest challenge for some people. ‘No’ is a really powerful word that is often used by people with high EQs.
4. You Embrace Change
Being emotionally intelligent means being flexible to adapt to the change of circumstances. Emotionally intelligent people know that their fear of change is the thing that stops them from achieving great success and true happiness. So, they plan beforehand all the changes they need to do and follow their plan.
5. You Let Go Of Mistakes
People with high EQs don’t define themselves by their mistakes. They dismiss their mistakes as soon as they make them, but they don’t forget them. They use their past mistakes for future reference and for finding ways on how to improve themselves.
6. You Are Difficult To Offend
Emotionally intelligent people are aware who they are, so it is hard for someone to do or say something that would offend them or make them question themselves. They are open-minded and possess a striking self-confidence which made them thick-skinned. They can even joke about themselves because they can differentiate between degradation and humor.
7. You Are Curious About People
Whether they are introverts or extroverts – it doesn’t make a difference. People with high EQs are curious about people in general. They want to know what moves them, what motivates them, what is hidden behind their core. Their curiosity could be because of their empathy for the more you care about others, the more you are curious about them.
8. You Disconnect
People who possess high EQ often need time to decompress and disconnect from everything. They get overwhelmed more often than others, so they have to take time off to recharge and clear their thoughts. After a busy day at work, they are most likely to turn off their phone and TV and just enjoy some stress-free moments of silence.
9. You Neutralize Toxic People
Individuals with high EQ understand how hard and frustrating it is to deal with toxic people. They approach these people rationally and with a grain of salt. Plus, they learned how to distance themselves from them so to not allow their toxicity to make them angry or frustrated.
10. You Don’t Hold Grudges
A person with high EQ knows that holding grudges lead to stress. And stress leads to high blood pressure and even heart disease. Emotionally intelligent people know that it is for their own good to avoid holding grudges at all costs. So, they are quick to forgive and forget.
11. You Appreciate What You Have
Highly emotionally intelligent people know that being grateful for the things they have is essential for their well-being. Gratefulness improves the mood, reduces stress, and increases the serotonin levels.
Don’t forget to be thankful for all you are and for all you have.
Mary Wright is a professional writer with more than 10 years of incessant practice. Her topics of interest gravitate around the fields of the human mind and the interpersonal relationships of people.