I’m a firm believer in the power our thoughts hold. They have a way to make the unbelievable happen; the only thing we need is our willpower. As the great Buddha once said “The mind is everything. What you think you become”.
Sadly, not everyone believes in this statement. The problem with most of the people is that they’re not aware of their negative thoughts when they haunt them. They’ve unconsciously created a place for negative thoughts and after a while, they’ve got used to this harmful habit of theirs.
Here are 12 most common toxic thoughts you need to eliminate in order to move on with your life:
1. Thinking you can change other people
I once thought that with a little talk I could inspire and motivate a person to actually change. I was terribly wrong, and I’ve learned the hard way that you really CAN’T change a person. They need to be willing to change themselves first.
So, if you don’t like someone for the way they are, you have a choice to end the relationship. But you don’t have the right to change them.
2. Thinking you are a victim
You and only you are responsible for the future outcome. Stop acting like a victim and stop blaming other people’s actions for your problems.
Just because you are not satisfied with your current situation in life, doesn’t mean you can’t change it for the better. Get rid of the victimized mentality and start living your life free.
3. Thinking that “The Grass is Always Greener on the Other Side.”
I keep listening to people: “If I was as pretty as her, then I’d be really happy.” Stop comparing yourself to others. Just because you see someone has it better than you, doesn’t mean that they have everything figured out.
Maybe the pretty girl struggled all her childhood with a dysfunctional family. Stop questioning and yearning for “the grass on the other side”. You don’t know for sure how it really is. Appreciate and cherish what you have.
4. Having high expectations of other people
Having all kind of expectations for anything can be disastrous for you. Especially, if you have a hard time dealing with sudden changes. Realize that your expectations are based on your experiences.
Just because you expect a thing from someone doesn’t mean they’ll do it. Every person has their own list of priorities. Either accept their behavior, or move on. Simple as that.
5. Thinking that a significant other will complete you
Remember: Your happiness depends on one person only – that person is YOU. If you are not happy with your life already, don’t think even for a moment that having a partner can make you feel complete.
It puts a lot of pressure on the person to actually make you happy. At the same time, it makes you so codependent, that when a certain obstacle occurs, you are left shattered and hopeless.
6. Worrying about anyone’s opinion
Why would you even bother spending a minute of your time to care about other people’s opinions about you? Believe me, they don’t even think about you that much.
People are too busy judging themselves just like you are. Do me a favor and give yourself a break. Do what makes you happy no matter how much they judge you. Ignore them, and move on.
7. Worrying about the future because you feel unprepared
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but this thought particularly wastes your life. You’ll never have the power to know what lies ahead of you, and that’s the beauty of it.
NOW is the only thing we have. Embrace the present moment, do everything that’s in your power and hope for the best. But never cling to it!
8. Thinking that your happiness depends on money
Of course, we value money and achievement. We live in a capitalistic society that credits our work abilities, therefore, you could say that our everyday existence depends on our monthly income. As shallow as it sounds, it’s the reality.
However, our happiness will never be based solely on our ability to buy stuff. There are plenty of happy people in the world who’d agree that they don’t need a penny to be happy. Money is nice, but only you can make yourself happy.
9. Believing that your past determines your future
Don’t fall into the trap that the difficult experiences you once had have a way to influence your future. You are the only person that defines the course of your actions.
No matter how much failures you lived to encounter, they have nothing to do with the future you. Push your limits and just do it!
10. Thinking that by ignoring those dark parts of yourself, they’ll disappear
Never leave those feelings by thinking they’ll just fade away. Confront every unfinished business and dark parts of yourself. Only by accepting them, you’ll have the power to move on.
11. Feeling that you always need to prove you are right
Why would you fight to the death just to prove yourself right? I think the fear of sounding stupid or weak can go for miles and drive you crazy.
Instead of fighting to prove something to others, just admit whenever you’re wrong. It’s a mature thing to do. After all, don’t you think that everyone has their own opinion? So, why would yours be more relevant than theirs?
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