I’ve heard and mentioned the term extrovert a million times. I recognize them, I was in a company of one, and I declare myself as one.
But there’s something, a fine line between my need to recharge and spend time with myself on one side, and my actual need to eventually socialize with people and enjoy the fun.
YES! We’re real! That thin line between extroversion and introversion eventually converts both sides into a spectrum. It’s not an either/or type of thing. It’s a long colorful spectrum and you can lie anywhere along it. It’s a bit confusing, but that’s the way it goes for me.
I can enjoy partying hard on a Saturday night and have the most fun in my life, but I’ll definitely take my whole Sunday off to revitalize and give my body and mind the rest they deserved.
No matter how contradictory this may seem, there are many people like us out there. We acknowledged the fact that the basis of interaction is grounded in our human nature and it’s unavoidable.
Luckily for us, there are special unique ways one can shut off whenever human interaction feels a little too much intense.
To spare you the confusion, here are a few things we’d like you to know in order to understand the unique nature of extroverted introverts.
1. We can be often quiet, but that doesn’t mean we don’t like to talk to you. Believe me, it’s not you. Don’t get offended or anything. We most likely have a hurricane of thoughts and feelings inside of us, and we want to share them.
But, the idea of sounding dull to you, kind of scare us. So, we’d rather listen to you and get to know you better. Eventually, we will loosen up and start chatting as well.
2. But at the same time, just because we like to be around people, doesn’t necessarily mean we want to talk. We’re happy by only being around the people we love. Talking takes a lot of effort anyway.
3. Hanging out one on one is always better than in groups. We value our time and appreciate the people that brighten our life. However, intimate hangouts mean more to us than intermingling with big crowds.
We have a chance to get to know someone on a deeper level through more intimate and thorough conversation.
4. We’re very open to meeting new people. Just please make sure to let us know on time that we’ll be meeting someone, so we can prepare mentally for socializing.
5. It’s confusing, but despite our alone time, we often get lonely. By now you surely think of us as some kind of a puzzle, but we really try hard balancing between enjoying our alone time and not feeling lonely.
It’s just, sometimes, we’ll feel isolated and need your company, but our bed is just so darn comfortable, we won’t be able to leave it.
6. There will be times when it would take you years to convince us to go out, but once we do, we’ll actually have a great time.
7. And regardless of the fact that we put ourselves out there, we constantly live in our head. Even in those moments when we’re out partying with you, there are thoughts and analysis in our brain that are happening without you knowing.
8. Another thing about us: We tend to bounce between really wanting to be noticed by someone and instantly panicking the moment that happens.
The thought that actually someone talked to us first and paid us attention for more than 30 seconds can be pretty overwhelming for us.
9. We sometimes get mad at ourselves for ditching our friends only to stay alone whenever we feel like it. Yes, at the end of the day everyone decides what’s best for them, but we are sometimes afraid that they will misunderstand us.
Which is why sometimes, we force ourselves to go out for their sake. Only to let them know we do it for them. Because if it weren’t for them, we’d be deep under the covers of our bed.
10. We really hate small talk. We try to avoid it. The thing is, we really want to get to know you. What sets you on fire, what gets you off or even scares you.
Talking about the weather is seriously not that interesting to us, but if you want to talk about that, then we’ll talk about it.
11. You can find us in the company of a friend or two. Being a part of a big group thing isn’t our scene. It’s most likely you’ll see us with our “clique”. Those are the individuals that came in or life and stayed for a reason.
We won’t engage with everyone just for the sake of social acceptance. We have merely a handful of besties whom we love unconditionally, and we’d do anything for them.
12. We struggle to balance our introvert and extrovert side. There are actual battles in our minds when we’re outside in some really big crowd. Sudden daunting thoughts usually appear and take on their own course- “Oh no, should I talk now?”; “But what if I bore him?”
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