Friendships are an important part of life. If you ask me, probably the most important part. I don’t know, I guess that is how I was raised to believe. Nurturing your friendships and taking care of your friends should be on your priority list, regardless of your relationship status.
In other words, it is important to have friends. Even when you are married. Just think about it. Relying on only one person, your spouse for every emotional need that you have can sometimes be too much for them. That is where friendships come in. Platonic relationships always provide that extra support that we sometimes need.
However, sometimes, in some cases, the line between a friendship and an emotional affair is very thin. You start to feel a bit closer to your friend, you feel like you can open yourself in front of them, but you fail to notice that you are sliding down the proverbial slippery slope. All of a sudden, you’ve crossed the line. You feel closer to them than you are with your partner.
This is where the problems start to arise.
Some people don’t realize they’re actually cheating on their partners with their friends until it is too late. That is why, it is important to know the difference between emotional affairs and healthy, platonic relationships.
Here are three telltale signs that you are getting more emotionally involved in your friendship:
1. You rely on them for emotional support more than you rely on your husband. You share every bit of personal information with them because you feel like they are the only person that really listens to you. There is no one more loving, caring and attentive than them. They would do anything for you and you would do even more for them.
2. You don’t like the share much about your relationship. Especially not in front of your friends or your partner. Every time he asks you more about your friend, you try to subtly change the subject and talk about something else. It’s a bit obvious, but you like to think that your partner doesn’t actually know what’s happening between the two of you.
3. There is a great sexual energy between the two of you. You can feel the tension every time you two see each other. It’s not like you are doing something. You are just sitting next to each other. Their touch, no matter how simple it is, electrifies your whole body. Their look makes you go crazy. It makes you want them more and more.
These signs are clear indicators that you have something more than just a friendship. However, it is important to also note that a relationship can be destructive to your marriage even without this full trinity. If your attention and your affection are generally focused on your platonic friendship than on your marriage, that is a clear sign that you are having an emotional affair with your friend.
Be brave, accept your feelings, be honest with yourself and others and make a wise, grown decision without destroying your partner’s life. Have in mind that marriages are one of the most important relationships that we have in our life.
The rest is up to you to decide.
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