Many cultures consider children to be born as angels and gain their humanity later in life. And this is no coincidence when you think of it. Children are born unspoiled, unprogrammed, and full of love and pure emotions.
Children see the world in amazement, absorb the love and joy from the air they breathe – that same world we are so tired of. And you will think that, yes, a child doesn’t know anything, that’s why they aren’t aware of how evil this world can be.
The truth is, children aren’t aware of these things because their minds are free from prejudice, their emotions are their language, and they aren’t afraid to shine with love and joy in front of anybody. They indeed are angels.
So, how to help this child keep their spiritual abundance while learning about the world? These 4 factors are what can make a difference between a spiritually awakened child, and one that has begun living amongst the flux of envy, negativity, and bitterness.
1. Helping your children understand and accept their emotions
Emotions are truth – they are the most natural form of expression us humans have. So why teach your children that they should feel ashamed of some emotions and do everything to reach other emotions?
There are no good and bad emotions, and children know this. Their feelings are a response to the world and the things that are happening around them. So, experiencing and acknowledging these emotions is very important.
If you teach your child to hide certain emotions which people have dubbed as ‘bad,’ you teach your child to bury these emotions deep inside, where they will fester into frustrations, negativity, and even mental illnesses.
Instead, discuss the emotions they are experiencing with them and try to identify and make out the difference between the symptom and the real cause, as they may be different. Helping your child understand their emotions and reactions means teaching them to express their feelings in a healthy way.
Here are three steps you can use to help your child express their negative emotions, like anger and frustration:
1. Recognize what emotion they are experiencing
2. Allow your child to recognize and understand the emotion by bringing it “front and center”
3. Encourage your child to release it in a healthy way. If your child is angry, for example, encourage them to yell “I AM ANGRY” as many times as they feel like they need to, until they have released that anger.
You will see your child feeling much better once they have finished venting and they can even start laughing. Such healthy release of the emotion will make them feel better about themselves and about the emotions they are experiencing, as no emotion is unhealthy – keeping them inside is.
2. Removing programmed and stereotypical behavior
Never allow yourself to put your child in a frame, in a stereotype they need to follow. The worst stereotype you can assign to your child is the ‘good/bad child’ stereotype. In truth, there are no good or bad children. There are only good and bad deeds, and you should stop with the categorization there.
Making your child think that they are bad (or good) because of what they did is completely wrong and misleading. Instead, they should learn the difference between good and bad actions, and you should encourage them to make decisions that wouldn’t cause harm or hurt someone else.
Moreover, speaking of stereotypes, you should never teach your children how a boy should behave, or how a girl should. These stereotypical ideas that gender comes with behavior are hurtful for a child who wants to be free in the way they think and express themselves.
3. Learning your child’s language
Children have their unique way of expressing thoughts. Not being able to express them in the verbal fluency of an adult, the child will find a way to say what’s on their mind in what may seem funny or silly to adults.
Possessing unique capabilities of perception, children have a touch of deeper wisdom in their thoughts. And instead of discarding or laughing at the words they utter, you should pay close attention to what they really mean when they say these things.
Ignore the wisdom they have to share, and they will eventually cut that communication short and may even start telling lies. So, create an open environment for discussion and allow them to share what they have on their mind.
4. Understanding your child’s world
Children are a lot more than miniature humans who like to play, giggle, and cry. They have the ability to connect with positive energies and create robust and unconditional bonds with people.
When spending time with them, try to level yourself to their mentality and stop acting like an adult. You will discover a world filled with unconditional happiness. Learn to be as curious as they are about every littlest thing.
Becoming a part of their world is a humbling experience which will tear down all the walls that keep you from seeing the pure light of joy. Your ego, your inhibitions, your misconceptions, and misunderstandings – they will all crumble in the presence of that pure consciousness that requires no conditions.
Children are fascinating in so many ways. It’s us, adults, that tend to teach them the wrong values of life which are deeply rooted in our egos, our bitterness from the harsh reality, and our wish to be happy without looking deeper within.
They can teach you more than you can teach them. While we teach them facts, they teach you the truth that doesn’t need words and labels. Accept this from them and nurture it so that it doesn’t disappear.