Look around you.
We are desperate for attention. We are slaves of other people’s opinions about us.
We carefully pick what to wear so that others don’t say something bad about us.
We go out of our way to make ourselves more attractive and appealing to others because we desperately want to be loved by everyone.
We beat ourselves up after everything we say (or don’t say), worrying that others would immediately change their opinion about us.
We practically live for other people. We live to fulfill their expectations of us.
Enough of that!
Other people’s opinions should not concern us. They are none of our business and they certainly have nothing to do with us. What others think or say about us is a reflection of what they think of themselves. It has everything to do with their own judgments, fears, insecurities, preferences, likes, and dislikes.
So, let’s stop going out of our minds to please everyone.
The truth is, no matter what you do, you are never going to be liked by everyone.
Here are 5 powerful ways to shift your mindset and stop giving a damn about other people’s opinion:
1.Know your values. Find out what gets you going, what leads you in life. Find out what gives you a direction and what makes you hopeful and confident in the pursuit of your dreams. Find what you truly value and follow that road. Knowing your core values is like having a bright lantern to lead your way through the dark woods. Without it, you will be completely lost.
2. Stay in your own business. People say there are three types of business in the world. The first is God’s or nature’s business. The second is other people’s business and the third one is your own business. Now, the first one will always be out of your reach. You cannot control it. The second one should never concern you. And finally, the third one is the only business that you should care about. Who you are and what you do should only concern you.
3. Do your best. I know a lot of people who had very big expectations of themselves and spent their life beating themselves up every time they failed to meet them. That is not the way to live your life. That is not self-love. That is self-hate. Can you think of how many times you failed? Too many to even count, right? Fine. Regardless of how many times you made a mistake, know that every single time you did your best. That is right. Even if it doesn’t seem to you like you did. Every moment in your life happens exactly the way it’s supposed to happen. So, every action that you take at the moment, is you doing your best.
Your best doesn’t mean working your ass off until you collapse as a result of exhaustion. Your best means working with what you’ve got at the moment.
4. Take control of your emotions. Base your emotions on your own opinion about yourself, not on the opinions of other people. Because when you let others take full ownership of your feelings, or in other words, when you let your happiness depend on other people, you practically give them the right to control your life.
Don’t let their actors influence the way you feel.
5. Accept the fact that we all make mistakes. Stop striving for perfection and realize that we are all flawed. We are all imperfect and we all make mistakes. We are terrified when it comes to talking about how we feel. But that is only because we think that we are the only ones going through those experiences.
Well, newsflash. We are all going through the same experiences and we all make mistakes. The good thing is, it is up to us whether we will decide to learn from those mistakes or keep doing them until we learn our lessons the harder way.
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