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6 Ways To Accept The Pain And Get Over You Unrequited Love For Good


Unrequited love is one of the hardest things I ever had to do in my life.

I remember those times. I remember those moments as if they were yesterday. I loved you, but I was never enough for you. I gave everything I had to you, but I didn’t get anything from you in return.

I will be honest with you; it wasn’t easy for me to go through all of that on my own. It took me a lot of time, a few kind people, an unconditional understanding from them and my own will to get to where I am now.  

But I did it. I accepted pain as a new feeling in my life and I let it flow through me. I allowed myself to feel it inside of me. It hurt like hell, but eventually, it got better. With time I learned that some things are not meant for us, no matter how much we think they are.

If you are struggling with the same, here are 6 ways that will help you accept the pain and overcome your unrequited love:

1. Cut off any contact with them for some period. I know that they would probably want to be your friend. I’ve been through it. I’ve pretended to be a friend to a person whose touch I desperately craved.

Some people do that purely out of their hearts, but then, three are some that usually do that out of pity for you.’

Don’t let them control you. Don’t let their guilt force you to do something that hurts you. Cut off any contact with them if that is how you feel. And don’t let them make you the bad guy for doing that.

2. Allow yourself to feel grief and go through all of its stages. The emotions that you will feel after realizing that they will never love you the way you love them will be painful. They will sting your heart. And they will make you feel as though you’ve broken up. Accept them anyway. Accept the pain. Accept the sorrow. Give yourself time to grieve and process what happened. Let your emotions consume you.

3. Tell everyone that you need time. Isolate yourself. Take as much time as you need to recharge. Let everyone know that you will be gone for a while and don’t give a damn what others have to say about that. I used to think that doing this is an act of selfishness, but now I know that if it’s what you need, then you should do it!

4. Talk to a person that might help you out. A lot of people struggle with moving on. I was one of them. I know it looks like I can talk to you for hours about it, but back then it was very hard for me to open. The only solution was visiting a professional. And if it wasn’t for her, I wouldn’t be here today giving tips on coping with unrequited love.’

So, yes. If you feel like you cannot find the way out of the maze, don’t hesitate to talk to someone who can help you.

5. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love. Remind yourself that you are an amazing, loving, caring and awesome human being who deserves to be loved truly. Replace every negative thought inside of you that is dragging you down with positivity and see what happens. Once you embrace the fact that you are worthy of love, value, respect, and understanding, the right person will come along.

6. Stop running into them. Whatever you choose to do, just know that running into them accidentally (on purpose) will not help you move on. Seeing them will be like a slap on the face. Like a knife in the guts. It will only hurt you more and more. So, don’t do that to yourself. Don’t hurt yourself more. You won’t overcome the pain of your unrequited love if you let that person be a part of your life.