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7 Things You Need To Remember When You Feel Heartbroken


No matter how hard it is for us to admit, but life is not always sunshine and bed of roses. Sometimes life gives you much more than you can handle. It makes you feel helpless and desperate. Sometimes life gets so hard that you feel like you’re trapped in a cold, black, bottomless hole from which there’s no way out.

But, we have all been there. We all know what it feels like to feel heartbroken and hopeless. We all know what it feels like to be broken inside. Yet, this doesn’t mean you should give up completely. Instead, it means you should stop being afraid of and suppressing your emotions, but allow them to come to the surface and accept them.

It means you should remind yourself that what you’re going through won’t last forever. That it’s just a phase that will be over very soon. That your pain will pass and you’ll feel whole and happy again.

In what follows, there’s a list of 7 things you need to remember when you feel heartbroken that will help you overcome the pain and get your life together again.

1. Remember that pain helps you become stronger.

It takes hard, painful experiences to experience a transformation of the soul and see the good in other people and the whole world.

When you feel broken inside, it’s natural to wonder whether your life will always be this difficult and this sad. But, the truth is that sometimes we need to go through pain so as to be happy again.

You need to remember that hard life events foster positive personal development. They help you grow and become stronger and more resilient.

2. Remember to accept your feelings.

Never feel bad for having negative emotions. Never be ashamed of and suppress your emotions. Instead, let them come to the surface. So, when you feel like crying, cry. When you’re feeling angry and want to shout and scream, do that. Just allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling.

Because bottling up your negative, heavy emotions will only stress you out and frustrate you. Keeping such feelings inside yourself will negatively affect your mental, emotional, and physical health and delay the breakdown.

3. Remember your purpose in life.

When you feel heartbroken, you become more vulnerable and you can easily forget what you want in life.  You can easily start to neglect your priorities, goals, and desires.

Therefore, you need to remember that bad times are there to remind you of your purpose in life.  They’re there to enable you to look at life from a different perspective and appreciate more the things you already have in your life and the people who truly love and care about you.

4. Remember that your family and friends are always there for you.

We always need help when we’re going through rough times. And who can be more supportive than your family and close friends? They are the people who genuinely care about you and want the best for you.

Therefore, you need to remember that you can always count on your loved ones for their help and support. Whenever you’re feeling down in the dumps or going through serious problems, you can always go to them and ask for their advice. And if advice or help is not what you need, but just someone who will listen to you, they’ll be there for you again.

5. Remember to focus on the things that fill you with happiness and peace.

Just because you’re going through rough patches, it doesn’t mean you have to spend every minute wallowing in despair and self-pity. So, instead of focusing only on your pain and problems, focus on the things that make you feel happy and fulfilled and that fill you with peace.

Go out and hang out with your friends more often. Spend more time in nature and enjoy the sunshine. Practice your favorite hobbies or whatever it is that brings you happiness and fills you with positive energy.

6. Remember that your feelings don’t define you.

It’s true – feelings are an important part of your life, but this doesn’t mean they make the person you are. Your feelings just come and go. Therefore, you should never identify with your feelings and let them control you when you’re going through difficult times.

Instead, when you’re having negative, heavy feelings, just observe them and remind yourself that they’re not who you are. Remind yourself that their intensity will decrease soon and never let them get the best of you.

7. Remember that your pain is only temporary.

Life is not a smooth journey. It has a lot of curves and bumps. But, what you should remember is that these won’t last forever. No matter how much you think that your problems, hardships, and pain will never end, know they will.

So, make sure you enjoy every single moment of your life. Appreciate even the bad, painful times. Because one day, when you look back on your life, you’ll be grateful for your heartbreaks and hardships just as much as for your happiness and successes. Because you’ll be wiser, stronger, and more resilient.