How do you know when a guy is with you for convenience?
Just because someone is in a relationship with you, doesn’t mean they’re seriously in love with you. No, my dear. He may be with you because you’re good for his ego. He may be with you because you make him feel better about himself. And maybe he doesn’t want to be alone, so he is just wasting his time with you.
However, sometimes, we don’t realize that there are so many red flags that show us our partner is not worth our energy and time.
Here are 8 signs that he isn’t serious about you, you’re just his backup plan:
1. He treats you like an option, not a priority.
He always has plans, but you’re rarely a part of them. He chooses to spend his time with his friends and relatives. He never makes a healthy balance between time spent with you and them. If you find yourself in a relationship where you’re treated like an option, and run and never come back because you’re just convenient.
2. He is mysterious.
When was the last time you heard him talking about his life expectations, dreams, goals, secrets, fears, deepest emotions with you? He is emotionally unavailable like a puzzle that waits for you to be solved. It makes you feel awkward.
3. It’s all about him.
The whole world revolves around him. He thinks he is always right. He is willing to compromise and acts kind when he needs a favor from you. He doesn’t care about your needs and wants. He neither admits nor apologizes for his mistakes. Your heart has become food for his grandiose ego.
4. He is always busy.
Are you always justifying him when he’s telling you he can’t make time for you? Don’t you ever do that! No one is always busy. People make time for those who matter to them. If he can’t make time for you, he is definitely not worth your time.
5. He talks about his ex-partners.
Moreover, he keeps in touch with them and leaves you wondering whether he is in a relationship with you or them. You deserve to be with someone with whom you will know where you stand; someone who won’t make a mess out of your feelings and emotions.
6. He is only interested in sex.
You’re his booty call. He considers you nothing more than a friend with benefit. He calls you only when he wants you to satisfy his sexual needs. What can you expect from a man who only wants to get in your pants? What can you expect from someone who has no idea what love is?
7. He never talks about future with you.
Being with him, future seems to be a very distant place. He sweeps you off your feet and calls you whenever he needs a teddy bear to cure his loneliness. But, he isn’t interested in moving in together, he avoids making plans for the future. He isn’t serious about your relationship. You’re dating a manipulative commitment-phobe.
8. You feel your relationship is going nowhere.
He doesn’t know the real you and you feel like a stranger around him, stuck in a middle of nowhere. With him, you experience nothing more than half-hearted love. Never settle for that.
Sandy White is a creative writer with a vivid imagination. The power of curiosity leads her to explore people’s inner world which is portrayed in her articles.