Most of us have dated someone for a little bit longer than we should have. If we take into consideration the fact that breakups are quite unpleasant and difficult, and in some cases even traumatic, no one can blame us for wanting to dodge the breakup bullet, right?
However, staying in a poor, unhealthy, unhappy relationship longer than necessary can be even more damaging to you than ending it.
Of course, saying goodbye to someone who was very important to you is hard and painful. But it’s even more difficult and hurtful staying in a relationship which isn’t meeting your needs. A relationship that doesn’t make you happy and fulfilled.
Yes, breakups suck, but staying with someone who is a constant source of negative feelings, stress, and resentment is even worse.
So, how do you know that your relationship is past its expiration date and that you should get out of it? Well, if most or all of the following 8 things look familiar to you, then you can take this as a huge red flag that it’s time for you to put an end to your relationship.
Here they are:
1. You feel like you’re being pressured to do things that you don’t want to.
Healthy and happy relationships are those where both partners feel free and comfortable being themselves and doing the things they like doing. However, when you’re with a person who is constantly putting you under pressure to do things that are not in accordance with your own beliefs, principles, and values, your relationship begins to become toxic.
Remember – no one has the right to tell you how to behave, control your actions, and try to change you, which brings us to the following point …
2. You feel like you’re not yourself around your partner.
If you don’t feel free and comfortable to show your true self around the person you love, then what’s the point of dating them? When you’re in a healthy, happy, and committed relationship, you’re always yourself. You feel free to show your partner your insecurities and fears. You don’t feel ashamed or afraid to show them your vulnerabilities.
However, if you’re in a relationship with someone who is constantly judging you, criticizing you, and making you feel ashamed of your weaknesses and imperfections, then know that you’re with someone who doesn’t truly love you and care about you.
3. Your partner is constantly making you question their feelings.
What’s the point of being in a relationship in which you’re never sure how your partner feels about you? What’s the point of being with someone who doesn’t wear their heart on their sleeve and who hides their vulnerable sides and refuses to open up to you? Yes, exactly – there’s no point in staying with this kind of person.
4. Your partner makes you feel unattractive and undesirable.
Being with the right person means being with someone who boosts your confidence. Someone who makes sure you’re always aware of your qualities and strength. Someone who makes sure you never doubt your worth.
So, if you can’t remember when the last time was your partner made you feel pretty and desirable and gave you compliments about the way you look, well, you might want to ask yourself: “Is he/she really into you?”
5. You’re being cruel to your partner.
Okay, we’re all guilty of this. We can be someone’s selfish, mean, horrible ex too.
If you’re already in a relationship with someone and you’re aware that you’re being cruel and inconsiderate to them, then, my dear, this is a huge red flag that you don’t like them as much as you or everyone around you think you do.
So, let go of them and put an end to this agony. Allow them to find someone that will treat them with kindness and compassion and that will love them the way they deserve.
6. Your loved ones don’t like your partner.
If your family and friends don’t like and approve of your partner, then you shouldn’t turn a blind eye to this. After all, your family and friends are the people who truly love and care about you and who want the best for you. So, if you notice that they bear animosity towards your partner, take this as a sign that there’s something wrong with your relationship.
7. You often find yourself apologizing to others for your partner’s behavior.
Do you feel ashamed to talk to your family and friends about your relationship problems? Do you often find yourself justifying your partner’s actions to your loved ones and people you meet for the first time? Do you often find yourself apologizing to other people for your bae’s bullsh*t?
Well, if you answered all of the questions with a yes, then that’s most likely a red flag. You’re in a relationship with the wrong person.
8. Your partner calls you names.
Well, this is certainly not cool. No one has the right to insult you, let alone the person who claims that they truly love you.
So, if your partner has no problem calling you “overly sensitive,” “needy,” “paranoid,” or “crazy” every time you get jealous, emotional, or worried about something, do you really think that they “truly love you and care about your feelings?”
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