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8 Red Flags You Are In A Relationship Which Is No Longer Worth Your Time And Energy

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Let’s face it: It’s not difficult at all to stay in a relationship even when you feel in the depths of your being that it isn’t going to last forever. So, the question is: Why is this so?

The answer – at the beginning of your relationship, you tend to look at your partner’s weaknesses and imperfections through rose-tinted glasses. You too easily ignore any flaw you spot in your partner and the relationship as well, cherishing hopes that things will change and get better over time.

However, once you consider your relationship for all that it really is as well as isn’t, there’re some things which are simply too important and too serious to ignore.

Here are 8 telltale signs you are in a relationship which is wrong for you:

1. Your partner is constantly criticizing you.

Your significant other should be your biggest cheerleader, your best friend, and your partner in crime all rolled into one person.

So, if they make jokes at your expense, criticize you, and judge you when you make a mistake or fail to achieve a goal, instead of offering you moral support, comforting you, and cheering you up, then this is a red flag you are in a relationship with the wrong person.

2. You feel the need to change to make your significant other like you more.

Of course, there will always be something you and your partner don’t like about each other. But if your significant other makes you feel like you have to change so as to keep them happy and make them like you more, then you are undoubtedly in a relationship with the wrong person.

If you can’t be who you are when you’re around your partner and if you’re not accepted and cherished exactly the way you are, then what’s the point of staying in the relationship?

3. You’re in a relationship with your partner since you’re scared of being alone.

If you truly want to build a healthy, happy, and successful relationship, then you have to be honest with yourself. When you start dating someone, you always need to ask yourself whether you’re in a relationship with this person because they make you feel happy and emotionally and intellectually fulfilled or because you have simply grown comfortable being around them, or maybe even, you’re scared of rolling solo.

If your answer doesn’t include the first reason mentioned above, then you should consider doing both yourself and your partner favor and leave them.

4. You love more the image of who your significant other could be rather than who they truly are.

The truth is that when you’re head over heels in love with someone, it is easy to disregard any differences between you two and fantasize about who this person could be someday.

For instance, he’s not interested in having children now, but perhaps someday he’s going to change his mind. Or yes, she has a tendency to leave her clothes scattered around the house, but perhaps someday she’ll become more organized.

Make sure you never fall into this trap. Yes, fantasy is better than reality, but the latter is the one you should live in and build your relationships.

5. You can’t remember the last time you and your partner laughed together.

This may appear like a small, unimportant problem, but if your significant other doesn’t find your jokes amusing and if they don’t laugh with you when you share funny or dirty jokes with them, it may be quite problematic.

The thing is that it’s not exciting at all being around someone that is always taking things too seriously or sulking, especially when you’re going through a rough phase in your life.

When you feel down in the dumps or when life tries to knock you down, you’ll need someone by your side who will cheer you up and help you face and overcome the punches more easily with their sense of humor.

6. Your goals aren’t compatible at all.

Of course, it’s impossible for two people to want the same things and have the same goals in life. But, when you’re genuinely in love with someone, you should know, respect, and believe in each other’s goals and dreams.

And when it comes to your relationship, both of you should want the same outcome, and that is to stay together and love each other forever.

7. You don’t really like your partner’s family or they don’t really like you.

If this sounds familiar to you, or even worse – if your significant other regularly takes his/her family’s side in misunderstandings and quarrels and if they don’t appear to stand up for you, then chances are you are in a relationship with the wrong person.  

What you should remember is that if your partner doesn’t seem to bother to help you get along with their family and if they appear to be more attached to their family than they’re to you, you’re definitely in a relationship which is wrong for you.

8. You find yourself wondering what your life would be like if you were alone again.

If you often find yourself thinking about whether you’d have been happier with your ex or whether you’d lead a more fulfilling life if you rolled solo again, then you either don’t love the person you’re with or you need to search for within yourself the reason why you are not content with what you already have.

Just ask yourself why you are searching for things outside of your relationship and once you figure out the answers, you can either decide to make things work between you and your partner again or leave them for good.