Have you ever come across someone in your life who is always nice for no reason, but complains about you to other people behind your back? Have you ever had a friend who was actually close to you, but in the end somehow you turned up mistreated and deceived? Beware the FRENEMIES.
No one wants to be around someone who is faking it. We want genuine, straight-forward and truthful people in our lives. Hey, we all took advantage of certain situations, but some people… It’s in their blood.
Although I’m not sure they are the only ones responsible for being the way they are. This society and this century have raised generations of superficial, money-oriented people and it’s just getting started. Globalization and technology managed to mess up our core values, social media tainted us to the point that we are unable to differentiate between real and fake.
If you feel the same way about your surroundings, here are 8 ways to spot a fake nice person:
1. They are nice to everyone
A friend to all is a friend to none. Simple as that. You can be the nicest and most righteous person in the world, but you simply can’t click with everyone. People have different personalities and their own individual madness. And that’s perfectly fine. You don’t have to be compatible with every person out there. Fake people have this inexplicable need to please others and work hard to be all things to all people. This is purely beneficial. They respect only people who have power and are very selective about who deserves their respect and ultimate attention, based on what they can personally gain out of that relationship.
2. They are competitive
Everything for them is a competition. Whether it’s an exam result or lifestyle, you name it. They are deeply convinced that they are better than you and will constantly compare themselves to you to make sure they are always the superior.
3. They make false promises
I’m sure at some point of your life, you’ve had that friend who said they’ll always be here for you, but when the road got a bit rocky, they disappeared in thin air. Fake people will do anything in their power to validate their place, but won’t give you much in return. They say what they think you want to hear. And then they use this to get what they want from you. It’s a game of manipulation and pushing the limits.
4. They are constantly gossiping
“Great people talk about ideas, average people talk about things, small people talk about other people”. Familiar, isn’t it? Beware of these people, because if they can loosely gossip about the people closest to them, imagine the things they say about you behind your back.
5. They are attention seekers
Fake people are so full of themselves, they strongly believe that the world revolves around them. It’s really not that hard noticing them. It’s usually the loudest, cockiest one in the group, constantly bragging about what they have done in their life. In desperate need of attention, they become literal sociopaths and won’t think twice when an opportunity comes along.
6. They never initiate contact
Ever realized how some people never make the first move? Whether it’s a call to meet up for lunch or casual hang out, you are always the one initiating contact. It’s probably that they don’t find you beneficial enough to maintain a continuous relationship with.
7. They are always criticizing
Genuine and truthful people will admire your work, praise you, learn from you. They will support you and always be happy for your success, no matter what their situation is. Frenemies will always find something wrong with your work, especially if they didn’t perform right in the same field. Jealousy is a form of hatred built upon insecurity. They feed on criticizing and making you feel bad.
8. They smile too much
The smiley face is the ultimate emoticon of happiness. Yes, smiling is contagious and adds up years on our lifespan, but here’s the thing. Fake people tend to hide their true-colored personality under their incessant smile and excessive friendly demeanor.