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8 Ways You Change When Your Parents Pass Away

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You never know what tomorrow may bring. Because the journey called life is unpredictable. Life is full of uncertainties. Everything which makes you feel happy and fulfilled can cease to exist in the blink of an eye. And unfortunately, even the people you love the most, one day, will no longer be here.

Out of all losses you can experience in life, the loss of a parent is the most painful and heartrending one. It changes your life on so many levels. It leaves scars on your heart that never heal – scars that you learn to live with.

The saddest thing is that we never actually realize how blessed we are to have such compassionate, caring, and loving people around us. We never realize how much they love us and how important they are to us until one day, they’re gone. Gone forever.

When you lose your parents, you change. You gain a whole new perspective on the world around you. And everything in your life gets a new meaning.

Here are 8 ways you change when you lose your parents:

1. You feel the sadness and emotional pain in your body.

When you lose a parent, your heart isn’t the only thing which hurts – your body can feel the trauma of that painful experience too.

If you notice that coping with the grief over the loss of your parents makes you physically sick, make sure you don’t forget to take care of your health. Because by taking care of your physical, mental, and emotional health, you’ll speed up the healing process.

2. You are overwhelmed by negative emotions.

When grieving over your parents, you can find yourself struggling with sorrow, anger, guilt, and loneliness all within the space of a couple of minutes.

What you need to remember is that you must never ignore or suppress such negative emotions. Instead, let them flow freely and accept them the way they are.

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3. You become more stressed and anxious.

Stressful situations become more difficult to deal with. You find yourself feeling irritated and overwhelmed even by trivial things. You begin worrying more about your health and that of your partner and children.

In addition, you’re more likely to have a higher risk of depression, anxiety, and substance abuse.

4. You can’t stand listening to other people complain about their parents.

When you lose your parents, listening to others when they complain about their parents simply drives you mad. It hurts you when you see others take their parents for granted.

Because you’d give anything to receive for one more time those long messages from your mom telling you to dress warmly because it’s cold outside or listen to her complaining that you eat too much fast food.

5. You learn to accept their mistakes.

When your parents are gone, you’ll realize that they weren’t perfect and that they made mistakes and faced failures like everyone else. And most importantly, you will finally feel able to forgive them for their mistakes.

6. Holidays will no longer be the same for you.

Your parents were the first people in your life to teach you how to celebrate holidays and important occasions, such as birthday parties and anniversaries.

When they’re gone, holidays can make you feel lonely and empty. You mom won’t be there to help you decorate the Christmas tree. Your dad won’t be there to share interesting childhood stories with you and your children.

And yes, as time passes, you’ll learn to give meaning to holidays, but they won’t be the same.

7. You learn to live with the pain.

You learn that the sadness and pain the loss of a parent causes never go away. Because no matter where you are and what you’re doing and no matter how quickly you manage to move forward, you’ll always feel their absence. You’ll always miss them.

 8. You learn what genuine, unconditional love means.

You learn that the love a parent feels for their child is true, honest, deep, and selfless. You learn how to love someone genuinely, wholeheartedly, and unconditionally. You learn to help others without expecting anything in return.

You learn that the love between a parent and their child lasts forever.