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Truth About Marriage: 9 Tips By Michelle Obama That Every Couple Should Read


It is common knowledge that marriage takes work. We are only human after all, and we are not perfect. Neither is our partner. And no matter how much we try, sometimes unconsciously (or consciously?) we end up making a mistake.

We can even become frustrated and annoyed when we see some happy couples out there who seem to have perfect marriages. What’s their secret?

It is not flowers and diamonds, I guarantee you. It’s the small everyday habits that make a marriage long-lasting. So, read on, and try to practice these small steps everyday which will give you a positive outcome in the long run by bringing you happiness into your marriage. 

  1. Be friends always 

It is believed that the best marriages are between those who were friends first. And while this may not be true for everyone, the fact that you need to keep the friendship between you and your partner alive if you want your marriage to last is true without a doubt. Friendship between partners always equals happy and lasting marriage.

  1. Have a date-night every now and then

There comes a time in every marriage when spouses have to deal with being apart due to various reasons. The key is maintaining a meaningful communication by constantly talking, listening, and showing genuine interest and support. Most importantly, no matter how tired you both are, always go on dates.

  1. Don’t forget the little stuff – this keeps the romance alive

Express your love and affection for one another every chance you get, every day. Don’t be ashamed to hold hands, kiss, and touch even in public places. The love you have is unique. So, be comfortable with each other and don’t be afraid to show it to the world.

  1. Marriage requires work, but work for the same team

Good marriages don’t just happen. They take a lot of effort and team-work. Every marriage has its ups and downs, but what keeps partners together is how much effort they are willing to put in to make it through the tough times.

Both partners need to understand that what is important is to win together, not keep score. They need to work together as a team – this is essential for a well-functioning marriage. Also, it will deepen the love and affection they have for each other.

  1. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill

The small issues often lead to big arguments. Don’t let trivialities get the best of you. Instead of focusing on the small things that irritate you, try to see the big picture. Focus on the happy moments of your marriage. Remember why you love your partner, and which qualities you admire them for.

  1. Take a good care of yourself 

For anyone who thinks that self-care is selfish – it is not. It is one of the most important things that you should do in a marriage. Taking a good care of yourself, both physically and mentally, gives your children a good example to look after, and makes your husband admire you more and more every day.

  1. It’s not what’s on the outside, but what’s in the inside that counts

Don’t judge anyone by its appearance. Looks don’t matter. Neither do tittles and money. What matter is: a kind heart, a forgiving soul. At the end of the day, we all need someone who understands and empathizes with us. No amount of money could ever buy a fantastic personality.

  1. Laugh together, stay together

The more you laugh together, the more happiness it will bring to your marriage. Laughter really is the best and cheapest medicine. Not only it has medical benefits, it also reduces stress, and brings closer the family.

  1. Be grateful and show gratitude often

Many of you can agree that expressing gratitude and appreciation towards our partner is an integral part of a healthy marriage. When marriages move past the “honeymoon stage”, it is really important to not take each other for granted. Saying little things like “thank you”, and “I love you for…” could help you to value your partner and also remind you why you have fallen in love with them in the first place.