I’m sure you already know someone who constantly goes in and out of relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship.
Unfortunately, we live in a culture in which it’s really difficult to stay single. While we’re all used to hearing things like: “You should wait for the right person,” it seems that not many people take these words of wisdom into consideration.
What everyone needs to know is that dating someone just for the sake of being in a relationship is nothing else but a waste of precious time.
As much as we fantasize about having an amazing, stable, fulfilling relationship and about being loved by the person that could be our perfect match, the truth is that these things don’t happen when we want, but in their own time.
No matter how much you love someone, you can’t turn him or her into your soulmate if they are not meant to be with you. No matter how bad you want some relationship of yours to last a lifetime, it doesn’t mean the person you love is bound to be with you forever.
You shouldn’t invest your time and energy in people who don’t belong in your life. You should never settle for someone who doesn’t bring out the best in you and help you grow.
You should not be afraid of being single or enter relationships out of boredom or loneliness.
I know that many people have a hard time accepting what I’m going to say next, but sometimes being single is the best thing you can do for yourself.
Being single is not a bad or scary thing. Being single doesn’t mean you’re lonely or miserable. It doesn’t mean you’re unable to love and build meaningful, lasting relationships. Instead, it means you’re well aware that it’s always better to wait for the right person for you.
It means you understand that it’s always better being single than going in and out of relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship.
The time and energy you’d spend being in a relationship with a person who is not meant for you could be better spent with you doing the things you enjoy doing with people who fill you with happiness and give you a sense of fulfillment and peace.
You could spend that time reflecting on your feelings and thoughts, thinking about your priorities and goals in life and about what kind of partner is most suitable for you.
You could also spend that time on gaining new experiences, learning new things, connecting with your true self, or just pampering yourself.
When you choose to remain single over entering the wrong relationship means that you get to spend all your energy, love, and time on yourself instead of spending all that on a person who either doesn’t want that or doesn’t deserve it.
However, we all make this mistake over and over again. We all make the mistake of falling in love with toxic people. The manipulator, the emotional abuser, the immature, the egoist, the narcissist, the psychopath, and the list goes on. We somehow always manage to convince ourselves (and we allow the toxic person to convince us too) that he/she is the love of our life.
We tend to think that our search for ‘the one’ is finally over and we happily let them enter our lives. Of course, we end up with a broken heart and bruises on our soul that take a lot of time to heal. And the only reason we end up this way is that we fail to understand that true love is sacred and more precious than anything, and therefore more difficult to find.
Good and valuable things are hard to find. And to most people, it’s easier to start a relationship with some guy or woman they’ve been hanging out with at the bar or met at work than remain single until they find the right person.
To conclude, whether we lack patience or we fear that we’ll never find someone to create a life with, we make wrong choices and enter wrong relationships. Therefore, it’s important for all of us to remember that when it comes to true love, there’s no place for irrational experiments.
You need to remember that you deserve better. You need to treat yourself like the worthy person that you are and value your emotions more.
Don’t throw them around and waste your time trying to find your ‘perfect match,’ but remain single until you find the person with whom you’ll feel a deep emotional, mental, and spiritual connection.
Be single until you find someone whose soul is aligned with yours. Because only when you feel that someone’s soul reflects yours, will you be able to experience true, pure, deep kind of love. And that’s the kind of love worth waiting for a lifetime.
Riley Cooper is a professional writer who writes informative and creative articles on topics related to various fields of study. Written with love and enthusiasm, her articles inspire readers to broaden their knowledge of the world, think and get ready to act.