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Breakups Don’t Have To Be Painful: 10 Ways To Break Up With Your Partner With Love


When we enter a relationship with the person we love, none of us thinks about the potential breakup, let alone is prepared for that. Unfortunately, your relationship sometimes comes to a point where it can’t be saved. You sometimes reach a point in your relationship where staying with your partner is more difficult and painful to you than breaking up with them.

Many people decide to stay with their partner although they are no longer happy in the relationship because they’re afraid how the breakup will affect both them and their partner. But the truth is that breakups don’t have to be hard and painful. You can put an end to your relationship and leave your partner in a healthy, friendly, and loving way. You can break up with your lover without hurting either of you.

Here are 10 ways you can do that:

1. Accept responsibility for your own mistakes and bad actions.

Never put the blame for your bad behavior on your partner. If you’ve been unfaithful to them, admit that it was solely your fault and no one else’s. Don’t make your partner feel responsible for your own mistakes.

2. Accept the fact that love is not always enough to keep two people together.

Accept the fact that regardless of what a deep, strong connection two people have had, sometimes they simply grow apart and nothing can change that.

3. Treat your partner with respect and dignity.

Respect your lover even if you don’t want to be in a relationship with them anymore. Give your best to avoid treating them with hostility and disrespect.

4. Don’t get attached to the potential outcomes of the breakup.

You might want you and your partner to remain friends after you break up or you might want your lover to admit all of their mistakes and wrongdoings when you break up. However, whatever your wish is, don’t get attached to it. Instead, allow the Universe, Faith, or you name it, to guide you and just let things be the way they’re meant to be.

5. Don’t blame yourself.

Don’t be hard on yourself. On the journey called life, we come across both positive and negative experiences and the latter are what help you grow and become wiser and stronger.

6. Give yourself time to grieve.

Regardless of who did the leaving, you have the right to cry. You have the right to feel disappointed. You have the right to be angry at yourself.  So, take all the time you need to grieve and process your emotions, but never allow yourself to dwell in self-pity.

7. Give your partner some space.

Don’t expect your partner to become your best friend right after the breakup. Instead, try to understand that they, too, need some time to get angry, grieve, vent, and heal their wounds.

8. Allow yourself to feel contentment and joy.

Just as you’re allowed to feel grief and disappointment when you break up with someone, you’re allowed to feel satisfaction, joy, pleasure, and freedom as well. You have the right to feel all these ways.

9. Believe in yourself.

Recognize that you don’t need to be in a relationship with someone so as to feel happy, fulfilled, acknowledged, respected, and loved. Recognize that you are whole and complete exactly the way you are.

10. Remember that your happiness and inner peace are more important than your relationship status.

Remember that self-love and self-respect are more important than the love and respect another person can offer you.

Breakups Don’t Have To Be Painful: 10 Ways To Break Up With Your Partner With Love