Relationships are complex and wonderful all at the same time. When you’re in a long-term relationship, you need to be prepared for the fact that you will both change over the years, something that you should embrace, celebrate and work through together.
This also means that it’s possible to develop negative behaviors and patterns, some of which can actually cause a lot of problems for you and your partner.
Being aware of these patterns and behaviors is the first step to experiencing healthier, more fulfilling relationships though.
Negative Habits & Behaviors to Be Aware Of
- Closing Yourself Off to New Experiences
A relationship should add to your life and expand your world, not close you off to all that life has to offer. The key to feeling more fulfilled in a relationship is to open up to the ideas and interests of your partner. This is not to say that you need to love everything they do, it simply means this is an opportunity to get excited about experiencing new things. You can even try new activities together that would give you both a new experience.
- Ignoring Insecurities and Concerns
Everyone experiences insecurities and concerns that affect their self-esteem at one point or another but when you fail to explore them, they can become bigger problems. Whether you’re feeling concerned about a certain part of your appearance or you are struggling with negative thought patterns, speaking to a therapist or scheduling an appointment at a men’s health clinic such as CALIBRE can make a world of difference and ensure that you are addressing the issues that could affect your relationship.
- Getting Angry about Feedback
Clear and constant communication is a key piece in the healthy relationship puzzle, so when you are closed off to dialogue, it creates a block in your relationships. Acting defensive or angry in response to feedback from your partner is not going to give you the happiness you’re hoping for. The fact that your partner is communicating with you about something that is bugging them is only positive, provided they are voicing their concerns in a loving way that is. Learning to accept feedback from your partner in a constructive way will bring you one step closer to a lifetime of happiness.
- Overstepping Boundaries
Healthy and happy couples have boundaries because they know they are two unique people in a relationship. When there is a lack of boundaries, it’s hard to know where you begin and your partner ends. Boundaries ensure that we respect our partner and are aware of their feelings, thoughts and what they need to feel happy and fulfilled. Giving each other space and respect will only bring you closer.
- Using Manipulation to Get Your Way
Manipulation is not uncommon in relationships and many people use it to get their way or feel better about themselves. Honesty and integrity are exceptionally important and there is no room for games in a healthy relationship. Being overly dominant or emotional are two common manipulation tactics that people tend to use to get their way but this will only lead to disaster in the long run. Ask for what you want and communicate with your partner instead of playing mind games and watch how your relationship flourishes.
- Forming Unrealistic Expectations
Many men forget that they can bring a lot of expectations and baggage into their relationships, which leads to them picking their partners apart. When you project negative qualities and unrealistic expectations onto your partner, you instantly make it that much harder for you both to be unique and loving individuals that have decided to come together. By learning to accept yourself and your partner just as you are, you are able to form a healthier connection that promotes discovery and learning.
By holding yourself accountable and committing to changing the behaviors that might be affecting your relationships, you can look forward to a future of happiness and emotional fulfilment.