Everywhere I turn, people are constantly mistaking love for desire. More and more people are settling down for superficial relationships. They are convincing themselves that what they have is love when in reality the only thing that they have is mutual interests.
Listen to me! There is a huge difference between being wanted, desired and truly valued as a person.
Yes, he/she desires you and wants to spend more time with you, but does he/she really love you and value you as a person?
Are your persona, soul, and heart important to him/her, or is it only the material, superficial part of you that he/she needs?
These kinds of relationships are everywhere. They are based on anything but love. Money, material possessions, ego, looks, social status, what have you. People mistake wanting for loving and they say yes. They say yes to a future and life together. They fall in love with the ideas of each other. With the perfect, photoshopped versions of themselves. They are there for each other in good times, but they are not ready for the bad times. And so…once the bad moments come, their relationships start to crumble.
Suddenly, everything they thought they’ve built together turns into ashes. And pretty soon, they become strangers. Strangers that once shared a bed and pretended that they genuinely love each other.
Relationships based on love, on the other hand, are a different story. They are real because they have depth. They are based on honest conversations, healthy boundaries, a strong self of inner worth, real connection, mutual respect, understanding and admiration for each other. And lastly, love. A pure, genuine love that is based on trust. And mutual trust that is based on respect for each other.
That is why these relationships are always growing. Because they transcend the limitations of the ego and the needs. They are about empathy and passion, but also about brutal honesty. They make you selfless, caring and compassionate. They teach you how important it is to care for other human beings. They motivate you to be your true and flawed self. To dig deeper, to discover yourself and to strive to be better than you were yesterday. They are about giving without expecting anything back.
That is why I am begging you…If you are about to say yes to a person you are not certain about…Don’t do it. Don’t settle for superficial love. Don’t settle for anything that doesn’t feel as pure as the right kind of love does. Find someone who will love you like there is no tomorrow. This is your life that we are talking about. And it is fading away very quickly. Don’t waste it in vain.
But, if you have already found this love, then I salute you. You, my dear, are truly blessed. You are one of the luckiest people on this planet and I want you to know that. If you’ve found a human being who inspires you to love purely and from the heart, you’ve found everything you need for happiness. Make sure to keep it close to your heart.
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