Either Choose Her Every Day Or Let Her Find Someone Who Will

I spent five precious years of my life struggling in a relationship. You are probably wondering how I let myself get stuck in something that was clearly bad for me. Well, here’s the answer. I was in love. Wait, let me paraphrase that. I was the biggest fool in love.

He was the first person to whom I opened my heart. There are not enough words for me to explain the intensity of the love I had for him. He was the love of my life and the first person that ever made me realize what is love. But I made a mistake. I believed in his words that I too am the greatest love of his life. Because, as I turned out, I wasn’t.

At the beginning everything was fine. We were two love birds who couldn’t get enough of each other. He was my favorite little nook and I was his happy place. Every day he told me how lucky he is to be with me. Every day he chose me all over again. But then something changed. Something in him shifted and he was no longer the same. I remember the day as if it was yesterday…

As months passed, he chose me less and less. Every day, for five years, he chose me less.

All the while, I was aware of it but didn’t do anything. He convinced me that everything is fine, and poor me kept believing him. I guess deep down, it was too painful for me to lose this man from my life, so for some reason, I thought that having him by my side like this is better than not having him at all. Boy, was I wrong…

The man that I was deeply convinced he loved me was only stringing me along.

For a very long time, I was in denial. It took me a few years to realize that I was actually hurting myself. And I finally did it. I left him and the memory of him behind me because I realized that I deserve better. It also took me quite a while to forgive myself for giving my unconditional love to someone who couldn’t love me the same. But now it’s all in the past.

And the only thing I have to say to all the men out there is this…

Either choose her every day and let her know that she is loved or leave her alone and let her find someone who will do that. She deserves more than your lousy, half-assed love. She deserves more than your maybe and your we’ll see. She is a human being with a pure soul, and she loves you more than you anyone ever loved you. Find the courage inside of you and let her know how you feel. I know that it must feel hard for you, but it will be even harder for her when you break her heart.

Don’t ever let her go through that if you care for her, even a little bit. If you aren’t capable of loving her the way she deserves to be loved, just let her go. She will struggle, but eventually, she will find her path in life.

So, please choose wisely.

Either choose her every day and let her know how loved she is or leave her alone.