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Here’s Why I Am Sick And Tired Of Modern Dating

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The world of modern dating has become so twisted and unbearable that it’s made me become sick and tired of it. I mean, is it really that difficult to find real love these days?

I don’t know – perhaps I have conventional attitudes to romantic relationships and everything that has to do with dating, but I really can’t understand when things, such as one-night sex and no-strings-attached relationships started to be prioritized over true, pure love and genuine relationships.

Has the world gone completely crazy these days?

Have we all forgotten the meaning of honesty, respect, and dignity? Have we all forgotten the meaning of emotional intimacy and deep emotional connection?

Indeed, creating genuine, fulfilling, strong relationships in the 21st century has turned into a tough challenge for many. Why?

Because modern dating lays down weird rules. For example, if you want to get the attention of the person you like, you need to master the art of seducing them without letting them know your real feelings because you don’t want them to think you’re weak.

Modern dating makes bad behaviors, such as taking someone for granted or stringing someone along, look normal. It makes individuals who enjoy playing hard to get and who have no problem playing with someone’s feelings look like they’re a real catch. It makes showing your partner your real feelings and vulnerable sides looks like a sign of weakness.

Well, I am sorry, but I don’t want to be a part of this sick world of modern dating anymore. I refuse to be a part of a world which is full of twisted values and emotionally handicapped people. I refuse to drown in a world which, to me, is nothing else but an ocean of apathy.

We live in a world where we are scared to feel anything honest and deep, or at the very least, are scared to show it. Instead of fully devoting our attention to our partner when spending time with them, we aimlessly scroll through our Facebook feed and notifications and post selfies on Instagram.

Instead, of investing our energy in making our partner feel happy and fulfilled, we invest it in posting happy, romantic photos of us and our beloved on social media and making our virtual friends think that our relationship is perfect.

Instead of showering our partner with attention and affection, we show indifference towards them.

Instead of having an open conversation with our significant other when we want to complain about something they said or did to us, we simply decide not to call or text them for days. 

So, I can’t help but ask: Who is to blame for this?

Is it us, the people that just want to find a normal, mature, responsible human being capable of loving and building a genuine, deep connection?

Or is it the society we live in, which has wiped out the last generation of people who possess true values?

Whatever your answer is, the fact remains that we need to stop playing by the twisted rules of modern dating and make new ones instead. We need to stop thinking that by committing to someone, we run the risk of getting hurt. We need to stop thinking that showing how we really feel is a sign of weakness.

We need to stop stringing people along that we don’t love and care about. We need to stop taking others for granted. We need to stop playing with other people’s feelings.

We need to stop being cowards and open our hearts to love and let our feelings show us the real way instead. We need to start treating those around us exactly the way we want to be treated.