We met online. It was love at first writing. If I think a little bit better, it was nothing more than love for having a good chat and writing while having a cup of coffee. He was the sweetest guy I’ve ever known. Or, at least, he seemed to be.
We were writing to each other day and night, telling stories, laughing and crying, dreaming and flying. To the moon. To the lightness of our infinite universe. Day by day. Months by months. It seemed like we were on the same wavelength until he suddenly disappeared. Out of nowhere.
Where did he go? Did he show up again? Well, yes. He said he wanted to meet me. What? I wasn’t so sure about that. It was too much; it was too soon. I wasn’t prepared.
A couple of weeks passed and we were still enjoying our conversation and making plans. I somehow started gaining trust. I was happy to meet him. And I was about to tell him that but he disappeared. Again. Without any word. And he was going to leave and come back and leave…
Yes, he was sending mixed signals all the time. And I did everything I could to decode his true intentions.
I started reading our messages. I was over analyzing every single word hoping that a sign would show up of somewhere. I was reading horoscopes, overthinking and analyzing, playing both a detective and a psychologist and I came up to an idea:
Who would know what a man thinks, better than another man? Right! I asked my guy friend. All he said was:
“IF HE IS SENDING YOU MIXED MESSAGES, THE MESSAGE IS CLEAR: HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU.”
“Maybe he lost his phone or hackers attacked his profile or… who knows!” – I said. “HE’S NOT THAT INTO YOU. IF A GUY WANTS YOU, THERE ARE NO MIXED MESSAGES”– he slapped his answer on my face straight away.
As soon as I accepted that fact, he was right. Of course, there are different reasons why a guy would act like this: he may be not sure about his feelings, wants to have fun, seeks for an attention or maybe he’s “a player”.
However, if you’re looking for a true relationship and you meet someone who’s “hot then cold, yes then no” type of man, one thing is clear: He’s a BIG RED “NO”.
Exactly, you won’t know where you stand with him.
Men… too simple to be complicated, yet difficult to be understood. And still, we need them, as much as they need us.