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I’m Gradually Learning That I Don’t Have To React To All The Things That Upset Me


I’m gradually learning that the energy it takes to react to every little thing that bothers you sucks your energy. It leaves you mentally and emotionally drained. It robs you of your happiness and peace of mind. It prevents you from seeing the positive things in life.

I’m gradually learning that I don’t have to get even with those who hurt me. I know it can be quite hard to just let the hurtful things others say and do to you slide and not give them a taste of their own medicine.  

But I also know that if I lash back at them the same moment they try to bring me down (or later), I’ll feel stronger and relieved, but this will last only for a while. If I start paying back whenever I get hurt, I’ll tire myself. I’ll let their negative energy enter my mind and body.

I’m gradually learning that the best indicator of maturity and independence is walking away instead of wreaking vengeance on those who don’t even deserve a bit of my attention.

I’m gradually learning that not reacting doesn’t mean I’m fine with things. It just means I’m willing and strong enough to move forward. It means that I’m not going to let them destroy my confidence and self-esteem and perceive them as a failure. Instead, I’m going to accept them as a lesson and learn from them.

It means that I’m choosing to be better and do better. I’m choosing my own happiness and peace of mind because that’s what I need. 

I don’t need to be surrounded by people who create drama and stress in my life. People who make me feel like nothing I do will ever be good enough. People who undermine the importance of my achievements and tell me that they’re not a result of my efforts and abilities, but sheer luck.

I don’t need people who lie to me and manipulate me to serve their needs. People who pretend to be loyal and good to me, but who wouldn’t hesitate to stab me in the back the moment I turn. People who tell me I’m not worthy and good enough.

And I’m gradually learning that sometimes not reacting at all is much better than arguing with and yelling at someone. Because reacting to every little thing that bothers you gives someone else power over your emotions and reactions.

You can’t control what other people say and do, but you can certainly control the way you react and how you handle it.

I’m gradually learning that the way others treat you says nothing about you and a lot about the other person. And that when others disappoint us, we should not let this shatter our confidence and drive us to despair.

Instead, we should take this as a valuable lesson. A lesson that teaches us how to treat ourselves with love, kindness, and respect. A lesson that teaches us that we should carefully choose whom we’ll trust.

I’m gradually learning that not all people will like me and treat me the way I want and deserve to be treated, and that’s okay. I’ve realized that trying to make someone like you is just a waste of time and energy. You can’t win someone’s love by force.

But most importantly, I’m gradually learning that no matter how hard I try to solve the disagreements I have with other people, this won’t change anything. This won’t make them respect or love me.  

I’ve realized that sometimes it’s better not to argue with someone or ask people to give you explanations about the way they treated you. Sometimes it’s better not to explain to people who you are and how you feel. Sometimes it’s just better to let things be.

I’m gradually learning that it’s better to solely concentrate on my own life and how I feel about myself than on what others think about my life.

I’m gradually learning that only when you focus solely on yourself – on your feelings, opinions, needs, desires, and behavior will you have a happy, peaceful, and meaningful life.  There’s no point filling your heart with anger and anguish by worrying about what others think and say about you.

I’m gradually learning that when you work on yourself, do the things that make you feel happy and fulfilled, and try hard to preserve your peace of mind, you don’t feel the intense need to react to all the things that bother you.