It’s Fine If You Don’t Have Your Life Figured Out Yet

Are you freaking out because you don’t have a stable full-time job, or because you’re still rolling solo, or because you don’t own a fine two-story house? Well, I’m not saying that there’s something wrong with those that fit this mold, but the idea of needing to have your life figured out by the age of 25, 30, or you name it, is simply absurd.

The real question is: What does having your life figured out mean?

Most of us believe that having your life figured out means having a stable, well-paid job, having a long-term relationship, pursuing your passions, and of course, being healthy.

Well, the problem is that when you haven’t achieved these “goals,” everyone, (or most people), around you perceives you to be a failure. You feel like you’re not doing enough. You feel like you don’t have what it takes to get where you want to be in life.

And the reason why you feel like you don’t have your life figured out yet is that you receive too much information about what others are doing instead of focusing on yourself.

Whenever you log onto Facebook or Instagram, you see someone bragging about their new highly-paid job or vacationing in the Maldives.

And the truth is that the more exposed you’re to other people’s moves, the easier it is for you to go from feeling happy for them to feeling discouraged or envious of them.

When you realize that your reality is way different from someone’s social media feed, you immediately begin thinking:

I am not trying hard enough.

Why am I not as successful as X is?

I am a complete failure.

But, let’s think about this for a second: If you didn’t know what everyone else was doing with their lives, would you still feel like a failure?

Would you still feel disappointed since you are not where you are “supposed to be?”

For 3 years, I used to feel this way nearly every day until last year when I stopped using social media for 5 months. I didn’t talk to anyone on Facebook and I even stopped watching videos on YouTube.

I felt the pressure to “have my life figured out” and I could no longer stand it. I realized that I had to reduce the amount of time I spent on social media.

So, if you, too, feel like you’re not doing enough, here is a little piece of advice: Instead of focusing your attention on what other people are doing, focus your attention on what you need to do so as to get where you want to be in life. Even if that means not using social media for a short amount of time or forever.

If you want to stop feeling like you don’t have your life figured out yet, you need to focus on yourself. You need to work on your strengths and develop your skills and talents. And you need to do this every single day.

You can do all of this through reprogramming your mind. Here are some truths you always need to keep in  mind:

– Your life journey is different from that of others. That’s why you should never compare your life to someone’s social media feed.

– You don’t know what people go through in order to get what they have.

– Everything which is worth having doesn’t come easy. You have to work hard to get it.

– Your strength, knowledge, and talents do matter. So, use them wisely.

– Don’t envy other people’s happiness and success. Instead, let it be proof that anything you want to achieve in life is possible for you as well.

– You’re the one who creates your own life and shapes your own happiness. So, what other people do or don’t do is not your business.

– Don’t postpone solving your problems. Make sure you deal with them as soon as life throws them your way.

– Last but not least, always remember that everything will fall into place when the time is right.