Let’s Face It: There’s No Such Thing As Bad Timing, Only Bad Choices

If you have chemistry, you only need one other thing. Timing. But timing’s a bitch.

We’ve all heard this saying and we’ve all related to it at some point in our life.

Personally, I have always genuinely believed that the only reason for my failed relationships is bad timing. For a long time in my life, I was convinced that bad timing is the main villain in my life. I didn’t know any better.

You cannot imagine how much time I’ve spent cursing timing in my life… Until one-day reality hit me. Until one day I realized that I’ve been lying to myself all along.

Until one day I said to myself… “Maybe timing has nothing to do with my mistakes. Maybe I am the one who is to blame”

The truth is, timing will always be messy. Timing will always be fickle and inconsistent. It is out of our control. How could someone ever think that there is good timing in life?

There is no good or bad timing. It took me a lot of time, a lot of heartbreaks and many broken promises to finally understand that timing has nothing to do with it. My choices do.

I suffered a lot; I blamed my destiny and life itself for my bad, failed relationships and disappointing experiences in life for a long time. But now I get it. There is no such thing as a perfect moment in life. There is no such thing as “the right time” to do something, meet someone, enter a relationship etc.

There are only right or wrong people. Meeting them or being with them is a direct result of your own choices. Bad or good, you are the only one responsible for them.

If a person wants to be with you, and I mean truly be with you, they will. If someone wants to give their love to you and let you inside their world, they won’t hesitate even a minute. They will be ready. It is as simple as that. Trust me. When love is real, there is nothing that can prevent it from happening. When love is pure, there is no bad timing. Every moment is right. Every moment is perfect.

I needed a lot of time to process this, but I am glad I finally did. This has been one of the greatest lessons that life has ever given me. And I am lucky for that.

So, now it’s your turn.

Stop what you are doing and think about your life for a second. Who do you think it’s responsible for most of your failed relationships and disappointments? The timing? Your fate? Life, itself?

It is you, my dear. Your choices shape up your life and eventually, your future. It’s all you. The sooner you realize that the better off you’ll be.