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Life Taught Me That I Shouldn’t Chase After Love, But Instead Focus On My Own Personal Growth

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Love isn’t the most important thing in life. Finding a soulmate is not the only thing there is to life. There I said it.

And believe me, I’ve been through a lot of things to prove this to you.

Yes, being in love is a remarkable feeling that doesn’t happen to everyone. But it is not the only valuable experience that will make your life worthwhile. It’s scary how most of us often overlook everything else and only focus on finding love.

What about self-love and self-care people?

Who will do that for you if you don’t bother to do it for yourself?

No one, that’s who.

To be honest, I wasn’t always this conscious about myself. There was a time in my life when I was blinded by my desperation. I was alone and all I could think was finding someone who would love me and fill in all the blanks in my heart that I convinced myself I couldn’t fill.

There was a time in my life when I wasn’t enough for myself. I was incomplete and I was convinced that I should do whatever it takes to find my other half. Nothing I did could ever make up for the emptiness inside of me. When I say nothing, I really mean nothing. Because eventually, I found a boyfriend. But the feeling inside my heart never left.

Until one day I realized that I’d spend my whole life searching for my happiness someplace else when it has always been a part of me. After going through all that in life, I learned the hard way that the only person I can truly rely on is and always have been myself.

It’s scary how much time and energy I had wasted searching for that life, when in reality it was there in front of me, all the time. That was the moment when I realized that I will no longer chase after love but focus on myself and my personal growth.

That period of time wasn’t the easiest for me, but here I am. It took me a lot of tears, many sleepless nights, a few heartbreaks and a few disappointments. Luckily, I had my loved ones beside me. And so, I made it. I found myself and I realized that there is more to life than just relationships.

I learned to cherish myself and cherish the opportunity to be alive and well, right here at this moment.

I learned to appreciate my solitude and enjoy my time alone.

I learned to open up and talk to myself more.

I learned to let go of people who are not destined to be a part of my life.

I learned that self-love and self-care always come first.

I learned that I am the only person that can truly help me find myself.