We love our special significant ones in our life. Our companions, our eternal soulmates. They are our source of happiness and comfort in our lives and we are truly blessed to have them.
However, as humans, who possess special, unique traits which make us different from one another, we can easily get annoyed with habits that don’t fit our personality frames.
That being said, and I’m sure you’ll all agree on this, despite our unconditional love for them, our significant others can sometimes manage to really “rub us the wrong way”.
Whether you like it or not, this is something that specifically comes into the picture in long-term relationships. The reality check comes and hits us.
People are flawed, everything is not rainbows and unicorns and life is not a pink bed of roses. Actually, sometimes there will be roses, but they come with little thorns which you’ll notice long after you lie down.
And when it comes down to silly little stupid flaws we hate about our partner, I’m sure everybody has something to say about it.
If you ask me to name a meaningless, yet annoying little habit my boyfriend does, I’d go for the one where he forgets (I guess, he’s not doing it on purpose) to put the cap onto the FREAKING toothpaste.
Okay, I know I probably sound nuts, but come on now, doesn’t that kind of pushes your buttons?
Out of curiosity, I had to do the reverse situation, and I asked him what would be the one thing about me that bothers him the most. He said “It’s really unnecessary to the point of annoying when you start over-analyzing my words. Like seriously, you don’t have to take everything so personally.”
You see, whether it’s their dirty habit to leave their undies and dirties behind them, or chew with their mouth open, or like to overanalyze and talk loudly or simply rub their toes in an (for some reason) annoying manner, there will always be things that will drive you bats about your partner.
And that’s fine actually. To be honest, if there wasn’t anything that drove me nuts, I might have been a bit more suspicious about all of it. “Is he too good to be true?”
As psychologist Dan Wile said: “When choosing a long-term partner… you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unsolvable problems that you’ll be grappling with for the next ten, twenty or fifty years.”
And I couldn’t agree more. The thing is, every person has their own unique way of existing, even if sometimes that can be an irresponsible, dirty and disgusting habit. And when you put it like that, it might even seem impossible to coexist with just about anyone.
But, you know what it takes for a relationship to survive through life’s challenges? Compromises, and a lot of them. The will to make it work!
I hate his silly little habits of making a mess out of our bathroom sink and he rolls his eyes at me when I bicker over some triviality, but at the end of the day, the essential, more significant things out-weight those annoying little imperfections.
As long as you two have a special way of understanding each other and you communicate about every issue that bothers you, there is absolutely not a single thing you should be worried about.
It is comforting to know that whatever happens, you’ll always be able to meet each other halfway. Because that’s the proper way for a relationship to function.
Do you agree on this?
What are the most annoying things your partner does that drive you crazy?
Do share with us, but be honest!
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