I think it’s time for some reality check!
The Disney version of happily-ever-after love has nothing to do with The Love. There’s no such thing as a fantasy land where everyone just gets along nicely, and people actually think before they speak. No, no. There’s no such thing as Wonderland, far away at the edge of the world where no one gets their heart broken or behaves like an immature and inconsiderate jerk.
Love isn’t a fairytale story and as soon as you realize that, the better off you’ll be.
I know that this may sound weird to you, but you don’t need a prince on a white horse to sweep you off your feet. You don’t need a happily-ever-after. Trust me, you don’t.
What you need is a person who understands that life is hard, and love isn’t always a fairytale story. Someone who knows that it will be difficult and you’ll both struggle to make it perfect but is willing to do it anyway. Someone who put his hand in your hand and does everything in his power to survive the heavy shitstorms of life.
Yes, you need that person.
Because let’s face it. No matter how much you love each other and no matter how much you respect one another, no matter how much money you have, and no matter how happy you two are, there will come a time in your life when you’ll experience trouble in paradise.
There will be rocky roads, difficult challenges and many hailstorms that you will need to go through together. There will be moments when you’ll want to disappear and be on your own for a whole week. There will be days when you won’t feel capable enough to prove your love to them. There will even be days when you will feel as though you speak different languages.
But that’s fine. Love isn’t always about having fun.
If you expected pink skies, colorful rainbows, unicorns and hearts flying above you, well you’re in for a big surprise. Life is much greyish and much brutal than that.
You will piss each other off. You will hate each other. You will yell at each other. You will fail to understand each other. You will disrespect each other, and it will take days, and sometimes even months for you to realize what you’ve done. Sometimes you will need more time to see things clearly and understand that your love is the greatest thing that you two have. But if you truly love one another you will do it.
You want to know why?
Because at the end of all that suffering, all those fights, all those long, restless nights will be the strength of your relationship. At the end of that pain, you will find your love. Much greater and much more powerful than before.
There is no running from pain if you love genuinely, with your entire being. You have to know that. The more you give yourself to another person and the more you love them, the more vulnerable and transparent you become to them. And the deeper they go inside that pretty little heart of yours, the more powerful they become to actually break it to pieces.
All you need to know is that each and every one of these experiences is a valuable lesson. That is if you are committed to learning, of course. If you and your loved one believe that every obstacle along the road is just an opportunity to prove to yourself how strong your love is, you will grow as a couple, but more importantly, you will grow as individuals.
So, don’t be afraid of troubles. In fact, be prepared for them.
Love isn’t a fairytale story. Find a person who understands this!
This article is written by Stephanie Reeds. If you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected] and I will be happy to give you my opinion.
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