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A Mom’s Secret To A Successful Marriage Is Going Viral Because It Is So Honest


Nikki Pennington, the blogger of “Grief to Hope” and a mom of three, reveals her secret for a happy and successful marriage on a viral Facebook post.



Nikki has been in love with her husband Jerred since they were teenagers. And, they are still in love. So, it is only natural for people to keep asking the 32-year-old mom of 3 kids – what’s her secret?

She shared her response in a Facebook post that has gone viral. The mom of Dylan (7), Cohen (5), and Neil (3), begins her post by saying that she always laughs when someone asks her about marriage advice. She laughs because she knows the typical answers to this question are something like “Don’t go to bed angry,” or “Always say I love you before you leave the house.”

She says that in reality – none of it matters. Nikki reveals that she and her husband have broken every marriage advice that they knew.

“You guys, do you know how many times in eleven years Jer has taken residency on the couch prior to us having kids because we were mad? Do you know how many times he’s left without us saying “I love you” because kids and life. His way of saying “I love you” some mornings is letting me sleep in when he leaves and everyone is still asleep. All the ‘secrets’ we’ve broken them. The secret to a long-lasting marriage is there is no secret at all, she writes.

The real secret is in trying every single day. It is in holding on together and not giving up. It is in eating frozen dinners together because that’s what you can afford. It is in both of you losing sleep over your newborn crying baby even though you are both tired, overwhelmed, and scared. You are in all together.

The secret is in counting pennies when you both are young so that you can build a future together. It is the realization that no marriage is perfect and learning how to be okay with it. It is in overcoming every obstacle together. It is about being best friends.  

The mom emphasizes that there are dark times in every marriage because there are dark times in life too. But, when you have a loving partner that is also your best friend – you endure the dark times together.

“Just try every single day, in the trenches and on top of the mountains don’t ever stop. Because stopping, that’s one thing that isn’t a secret, it will make you fail,” she finishes her post.

She is not surprised that her post is viral now, having been shared for more than 130k times. She says that this is because she was honest and wrote from the heart. That’s what many people recognized.

She thinks that many married people nowadays are ashamed to share that they are having difficulties in their marriage because they think that they are failing and others will judge them. The reality is everyone has difficulties in their marriages – the key is in trying to make it work every single day.