Getting married and having children is something that most people would define as pure joy and happiness. Others, however, dread the thought of getting into something that nowadays usually ends in disappointment and pain.
Divorces happen so often nowadays that they have become an accepted norm – sometimes even better seen than getting married.
It’s true that sometimes things simply don’t work out, and some people simply can’t learn to live together because of the differences that start popping out.
However, this doesn’t mean that the children are supposed to learn all the bad lessons that usually come with divorces.
These usually include anger, vanity, resentment, ignorant behavior… every symptom of the utter disappointment and the pain of divorce.
And then, there’s Billy Flynn, a divorced dad of two boys. He decided to break this chain despite the divorce and stop the drama before it begins.
He simply didn’t want his children to have to be affected by the aftershock of the divorce in a way that can utterly change their personality.
In a post that seems to be taking the Internet like wildfire, he explains why he still sends his ex-wife flowers for her birthday, instead of acting like most people do.
After getting all those awkward questions as to why he still does things for her, he decided to break it down and send a very strong message to all the divorced moms and dads out there.
Here’s what he wrote:
“It’s my ex-wife’s birthday today so I got up early and brought flowers and cards and a gift over for the kids to give her and helped them make her breakfast. Per usual someone asked me why the hell I still do things for her all the time. This annoys me. So ima break it down for you all.
I’m raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships. I think even more so in my case because we are divorced. So if you aren’t modeling good relationship behavior for your kids, get your shit together. Rise above it and be an example. This is bigger than you.
Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them, now more than ever.”
Don’t forget: Children do as we do, not as we say. Practice what you preach and teach your children to always show respect for the people they love. And in the end, don’t forget that the differences between the divorced parents shouldn’t affect the children.
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