Relationships Aren’t Supposed To Destroy Your Happiness: 6 Red Flags You Are In An Unhappy Relationship

There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship.  All couples are bound to go through ups and downs in their relationships. All couples are faced with problems, challenges, and temptations in their relationships.

Yet, while it’s true that relationships are not a smooth journey and that they require hard work, it’s also true that not all couples can overcome their problems and fix their relationship and that not all couples are compatible.

And there’s nothing wrong with this, but sometimes it’s difficult to tell whether you’ve only hit a rough patch in your relationship, or you are no longer happy in it.

Here are 6 red flags you’re in an unhappy relationship:

1. Your partner makes you feel insecure.

Does your partner often compare their own successes with your own? Do they undermine the importance of your accomplishments and successes and make you feel like they are a result of mere luck and nothing else? Do they treat you like you’re inferior to them? Do they often make you doubt your qualities and even worth?

Well, if you answered all of the questions with a yes, try to speak to your partner and tell them how their behavior makes you feel. If you notice that they don’t bother to change the way they treat you, then maybe it’s time for you to put an end to the relationship.

2. You easily get irritated by your partner’s actions.

When you’re in a relationship with someone for a long time, chances are that they are going to annoy you with some of their actions. Perhaps they always leave their clothes all over the bedroom, they chew loudly, or they fill the kitchen sink with dishes and never wash them. You might fly off the handle and roll your eyes, but generally, these things aren’t a big deal. After all, no one is perfect, right?

However, it is a big deal if you can’t spend half an hour together with your partner without feeling frustrated and wanting to yell at them due to something they said or did.  If this is how you feel most of the time when you’re around your partner, this can be a sign that your feelings for them have changed.

 

3. You avoid spending time with your partner.

At the start of a relationship, all couples feel like even if they could spend time together 24/7, it still wouldn’t be enough for them. They have no problem staying up late at night to exchange texts, talk to each other on the phone, or watch a movie together.

It’s normal for this urge to be in each other’s company all the time to wear off over time. However, if you’ve begun searching for ways to spend less time with your partner, then this can be a sign that you aren’t as happy in your relationship as you pretend to be.

For example, if you’re always having a great time when you’re out with your friends, but the idea of going out to lunch with your bae makes you cringe, then know it’s time for you to think about whether you still want to stay in the relationship.

4. You fight a lot.

Arguments are a part of every healthy, happy, successful relationship. However, if you and your partner can’t start a conversation about anything without flying off the handle and shouting at each other, well, this is a sure sign that there’s something wrong with your relationship.

If you often find yourself feeling afraid to talk to your partner about a relationship problem or complain to them about their behavior because you know this will immediately make them lose their temper and start an angry fight with you, you should reevaluate your relationship.

5. You’ve stopped imagining your partner as a part of your future.

When you truly love someone, and most importantly, when you know that they feel the same way about you, you enjoy imaging the future you’re going to share together. You enjoy imagining the house you’ll live in, the kids you’ll have, and how you’ll grow old together.

But, if none of the above-mentioned things are a part of your plans for your future, then this may be a sign that the person you’re currently in a relationship with is not right for you.

6. You’ve been cheating on your partner.

A healthy, strong, happy relationship is one in which both partners are entirely faithful to one another. In this kind of relationship, there’s no place for a third person.

So, if you’ve started cheating on your partner, or even flirting with other guys/women in bars or exchanging inappropriate texts with another person, then you either don’t feel happy and fulfilled in your current relationship or you’re no longer in love with your partner.