Stop Waiting For People To Make You Happy And Look For That Happiness Within You

Let me tell you a story.

I am a person who has struggled with relationships my whole life. Ever since I can remember, I’ve always been the who was left out. I was always the loner. For some reason, I had a hard time fitting in. So, considering that this was my greatest wish, you can only imagine how hard it was for me.

I just wanted people to like me, you know?

High school was pretty much the same, if not even worse. For me, it was the epitome of hell. I had a period in my life when people bullied me. And just like everything else, that also stopped at some point. But I was never a part of something big. I was never a part of a group of people, or let’s say the popular ones in the class. I am utterly ashamed of classifying people in such groups, but we all know how shallow and desperate the mind of a teenager sometimes is.

All I know is that I wanted to stop feeling like that. I wanted to wake up into a world where I am not an outcast and people actually love me. I just wanted to be accepted for who I am.

Luckily, that time has passed, and I grew up. Today I am much stronger as a person, much wiser and much more mature. Those painful years of my life were really hard on me. I can honestly say that if it weren’t for a few, amazing people that arrived into my life at that exact moment (you know who you are), I probably wouldn’t have made it…

But you know what? Those horrible years of my life opened my eyes. After so much time and energy spent on getting people to like me, I finally asked myself, “But what about what I genuinely want? Do I even like these people? Or is it the sheer loneliness that makes me crave the presence of others that much?”

The thing is, life is short enough as it is. I know that this is the biggest cliché that you’ve ever heard, but it is the truth. So, tell me. Why are we so damn eager to spend it looking for our happiness in other people?  Why are we so obsessed with forcing people to love us? Why can’t we just let go and live our lives?

Your happiness and your will to live can only be found inside your heart. The people that we spend most of our time with, the ones that come into our lives and leave a certain mark on our heart, whether they’re friends, family, partners or colleagues, they shape us as we grow. They become a part of us. That’s a given. But regardless of their influence on us, we are the only ones who can build ourselves up or knock ourselves down.

We are the ones who have that power. And not only power but also a responsibility.

You have to understand that people will always find a way to be mean and hurt you. That is a part of our damned nature. It is up to you whether you will accept that kind of life or you will finally acknowledge your worth and keep moving on your own.

Stop waiting for people to make you happy and try to find that happiness within you. It’s no one’s responsibility to fix you or change the things that you don’t like about yourself. It’s only yours. Plus the clock is ticking away. If you don’t do it today, you may not have tomorrow.

Release yourself from that victim mentality and realize that you don’t need others to be happy. You are not miserable because people reject you. You are not angry because no one likes you. You are not sad because others don’t care about you. You are miserable because you don’t accept yourself for who you are. You are angry because you don’t love yourself. You are sad because you don’t bother to take care of your wellbeing.

So, let’s change that today, shall we?

This article is written by Stephanie Reeds. If you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected] and I will be happy to give you my opinion.