Although you might have heard that on average, men think about sex once every 7 seconds, it isn’t true. Sure, if you had interviewed some 17-year olds, you could have discovered that thinking about sex, things that could result in them having sex, or thinking about other people having sex keeps them busy for about half of their waking hours. Only a person that has never been a 17-year old that will get aroused by a mere sight of a shape that vaguely looks like a woman’s body will be surprised by the existence of pornstar sex dolls. Still, if you are older and you don’t cycle testosterone, then your libido won’t be even close to this level. Okay, but what are the other important factors? Let’s find out
The testosterone levels
Testosterone is responsible for the sex drive in men. The higher levels of testosterone, the stronger the need to engage in sexual acts. It doesn’t mean that testosterone is responsible only for the libido. Men with low levels of testosterone are more likely to suffer from problems with their bones, though it also would have a negative impact on their mood. Testosterone is also essential when it comes to the growth of muscle mass – that’s why some bodybuilders cycle testosterone to improve their performance.
The levels of testosterone peak when men are around 20 years old, and with time, they slowly decrease. Although age is the main factor, if you are young, but your sexual drive is non-existent, there are ways to boost testosterone levels:
- Going to the gym is a great way to boost your testosterone levels that will also have other benefits. You should prioritize resistance training, as the studies have shown that it leads to a bigger increase in testosterone than endurance training. The exercises that target the biggest muscles, like squats or deadlifts, will have the most pronounced effect. Apart from the direct effects, if you are overweight, hitting a gym can help you stay in shape, which will increase the amount of testosterone in your body. You will also get a confidence boost, which can lead to an increased number of sexual encounters. Which leads too…
- Have sex more! Although it might be a weird piece of advice to give to someone who has a low libido, you should try to schedule “sex dates” with your partner. Sex directly increases testosterone levels, but intimacy also decreases your cortisol levels. If you experience a lot of stress, your cortisol levels will rise, which will have a negative impact on testosterone in your body. There are also other ways to deal with stress than to put your penis to use. Instead, you could meditate or do yoga, though it’s less fun.
- You might have heard that the mediterranean diet is great for increasing libido, and it’s true. Oysters, fish, but also fruits, contain vitamin D, which is essential for testosterone levels. Exposure to sunlight will also help you to get enough vitamin D so that you will be willing to give your D to others.
- Sleep a lot! Not with other people, although it wouldn’t hurt either, but rather try to get enough sleep at night. Taking into account the fact that sleep is essential to maintain proper testosterone levels, it is difficult to overestimate the importance of getting enough rest. Most adults think that it is enough if they sleep 6 or 7 hours per night. It is not true, and you should know that ignoring sleep can not only make it harder for you to get hard, but it can also have other detrimental effects on your body.
- You don’t necessarily need to go to the doctor to take prescription drugs that would increase your testosterone levels. Ashwagandha or horny goat weed will help you get erect without much effort, and they can be ordered off the internet without any visit to the doctor required.
Ultimately, if any of those don’t work, then you might be either suffering from medical conditions, in which case it would be best to visit a doctor, or you might find your partner unattractive. You shouldn’t feel ashamed that you can’t get erect at the sight of a person that you’ve loved for so many years. You can start taking prescription pills that will make you feel like a horny teenager once again. If, on the other hand, you think that your partner might be the problem, you should discuss with her or him what you think might be causing this issue. It takes two to tango, and the same applies to sex. If you and your partner want to have a great sexual life, then both of you should take care of yourselves, or sex might be impossible without boner pills. It would work, but maybe a gym membership would be enough.
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