I know how it hurts when your heart is too heavy and your soul is exhausted. I’ve been there myself.
I was so emotionally and mentally exhausted that I became a shadow of the happy, lively girl I once was.
I can’t tell how many times I wondered: “How did I turn into someone I didn’t recognize anymore?” “How did I end up feeling so emotionally drained, confused, and empty?”
I eventually came to the conclusion that you become a girl with a tired soul when you care about everyone around you so much that you forget to care about yourself. When you give your best to make everyone happy while forgetting about your own happiness and peace of mind.
Your soul gets tired when you put other people’s feelings, needs, wishes, and problems on the top of your priority list and you ignore your own. When you always say yes to others for everything, even for things you don’t want to do.
Your soul gets tired when you stop treating yourself with the same amount of kindness, compassion, and respect you treat others. When you give parts of yourself to other people so as to feel whole when your world is falling apart. When you forget to love and appreciate yourself as much as you love and appreciate others.
You end up being a girl with an exhausted soul when you wear a mask and pretend that everything is just okay although deep down you feel like you’re falling apart. When you try to be strong for the people around you. When you smile but your soul is crying on the inside.
Your soul becomes tired when you’re not honest with yourself. When you discard your own feelings and thoughts and you don’t live your life in accordance with your beliefs and principles but with those of others. When you let other people’s opinions of you affect the way you see yourself and determine your worth.
You end up being a girl with an exhausted soul when you let your past heartbreaks, mistakes, and failures become a heavy burden you carry on your shoulders in the present.
Your soul gets tired when you surround yourself with people who are not worthy of your time and attention. People who drain your energy and take your happiness away from you. People who don’t help you in growing.
Your soul becomes tired when you devote your attention and love to people who take you for granted. When you bring out the best in someone who only gives you their worst. When you love and value people who don’t see your value. People who are not worthy of even a second of your time.
It never occurs to you that you need time to recharge your batteries. You need to have alone time to gather your thoughts, think about your opportunities, make plans for your future, and see where you’re currently in life and where you’re headed.
It never crosses your mind that self-love and self-care don’t make you a selfish person. Instead, loving and taking care of yourself shows you understand that you can never truly love and be there for others if you don’t love and aren’t there for yourself first.
And this is how loneliness, sadness, and pain begin to consume you. You keep telling yourself that one day everything will be fine again and that someone will love and cherish you for who you are. Someone will give you back the same amount of kindness, appreciation, and affection you’re giving them.
Gradually you get tired of all the waiting and hoping. Your energy, positivity, and strength begin to run out. You begin to feel like you lack strength both to smile and cry. You lose track of yourself.
Yes, I know exactly how you’re feeling and what you’re going through now. I once felt exactly the same way. I felt like I was losing track of myself too.
I thought I was never going to feel happy, fulfilled, and whole again until I decided to heal my tired soul.
I was aware it wasn’t going to be an easy journey, but I was determined to make it work and cure my tired soul.
This is what I did and I sincerely hope it’ll help you as well:
1. Remember that your soul is still alive.
Yes, your soul is tired, but it’s still alive – never forget that. That’s why you need to stop pretending that you’re living your life and actually start living it. It’s time for you to get out of bed, pull up the window blinds, and let the sunshine in.
It’s time for you to start enjoying each new day and opportunity life offers you. It’s time for you to start doing the things that bring you true happiness and satisfaction and gain new experiences. It’s time for you to live life to the fullest.
2. Make yourself your number one priority.
If you keep taking care of others and investing all your energy and time in others without doing the same thing for you, you’ll never succeed in healing your tired soul.
You have to learn how to treat yourself with kindness, compassion, love, and dignity. You have to learn how to listen to your own thoughts, recognize and accept your own feelings, and take care of your own needs, wishes, and problems.
Just treat yourself exactly the same way you want others to treat you. When you treat yourself with love and respect, the rest will just follow the example.
3. Surround yourself with good people.
Surround yourself with people who truly deserve your time and love. People who fill you with happiness and positive energy and give you a sense of peace. People who have proved worthy of your trust and you know you can always rely on. People who genuinely care about you and want the best for you.
Keep such people close to you and leave all those manipulative, phony, shallow, toxic people in your past. You don’t need them in your life. They are just standing in the way to your happiness and success.
4. Stop fearing change – embrace it.
You’re used to making others happy. Well, it’s time you did the same for yourself too.
So, make sure you use every chance to do something new. There’s plenty of things you can do, such as: going hiking in the mountains; cycling; going to the movies, theater, gallery, or museum; meeting new people; visiting a country you’ve never been to; learning a new language; going to the spa, and the list goes on.
Whatever you choose to do, always remember to take time for and pamper yourself. You deserve it.
5. It’s not your job to make others happy.
Of course, you will help and be there for others, but only when you can. You will give your help and support to others without this being at your own expense.
You see, by being always there for other people, you teach them that they can always rely on you. They become comfortable depending on your help and support. They expect you to carry their own burden.
But, you need to remember that you have your own life to live, your own worries, insecurities, and problems to take care of, and your own voids to fill. Only you can mend your own soul and achieve your happiness. No one can do that for you, so there’s no reason why you should be always trying to do the same for others.
6. Heal your spirit.
Whether it’s doing meditation exercises, praying, talking to a therapist, spiritual advisor, or close friend, or just spending time and relaxing in nature, it doesn’t matter. Just find out what activities make you feel peaceful and calm and make sure you practice them.
Riley Cooper is a professional writer who writes informative and creative articles on topics related to various fields of study. Written with love and enthusiasm, her articles inspire readers to broaden their knowledge of the world, think and get ready to act.