Why Modern Dating Makes Me Want To Give Up On Everything And Leave For Good

Let’s face it. We’re living in a world of a sick dating culture.

Modern dating requires you to master the art of seducing someone without letting them know you really feel because god forbid someone actually cracks the code and find out that you’re attracted to them.

We’re existing in a society where emotions are underrated, and people are constantly taken for granted. A cruel and ignorant place where pretending to be something you’re not, instead of being yourself is likely to get more people to love you.

Everywhere I turn, there are thousands of confused people wondering whether someone wants to date them or not, contemplating perplexing text messages or Instagram stories, and figuring out just how subtle should their next move be.

Hello, it is time to wake up!

We are the generation of emotionally handicapped people.

And, I’m sorry, but I don’t want to be a part of this wretched, depressed world anymore!

I’ve been around enough to realize that we cannot keep doing this if we want to grow. We simply cannot allow ourselves to drown in the ocean of apathy.

While I was taken, I couldn’t help but wonder why everyone around me complained about the struggle of finding the real thing. I just couldn’t believe it was that hard to come across someone who will be worth it. If I could have found a loving and caring partner, everyone could.

But, it was not until I got out of my relationship that I actually realized how twisted modern dating is. I had to fully experience the chronicles of single life to realize that it is freaking minefield out there.

People are too afraid to accept what they feel. They are terrified to show how they feel. They act like they don’t care in order to make people more interested in them. Every conversation must consist of carefully chosen words indicating that you’re okay with something, even if you’re not. Oh, be careful with that. Someone might find out that you actually have a heart.

Texting is the new way of communicating. But still, you cannot let yourself cross the line of neediness. If you were the one who texted the last time, that means this time you have to wait for them to text you first. Phone calls? If you want to hang out with someone, it’s better to wait for them to set a date, otherwise, you’ll seem too interested, borderline overly attached.

People don’t dare to ask where their relationships are going, for asking would only indicate that they’re needy. They suppress their anger, they bottle up their feelings, they lock all of their emotions in a box and throw the key away. Everything is better when it’s labeled as casual. Oh, you spent a nice evening having dinner and then you made love? It’s time to ignore them for days and make them wonder if you even care for them. That will do trick!

Well, I’ve had it! To hell with this sickness!

If I want to meet someone, I won’t be afraid to approach them and introduce myself. If I like someone, I will hang out with them. If I care about a person, I will let them know how much I love them. If someone inspires me, I’ll tell them. If I someone hurts me, I’ll leave them. If someone makes me angry, I will fight them, even if that makes me look a crazy bitch.

Why would showing those genuine emotions make me overly attached, needy, weird or naive when I am just being myself?

I refuse to stand idly by and let someone define my life for me. I will never let anyone have that power over me. In fact, we should never let others control our feelings. I’m tired of fighting for someone to love me and forcing someone to show me what they really feel. I’m tired of living in a world where indifference is a major turn on, and honesty is something we try to avoid at all cost.

Let’s just stop acting like little sissies. Let’s start behaving as normal human beings should behave. Let’s open our hearts and let our emotions show us the real way.

If someone makes you happy, tell them. If someone makes you frustrated, for the love of god, tell them. If you are not interested in a serious relationship, don’t string people along. Respect everyone around you enough to tell them the truth, no matter how bitter it is.

We’re all trying to make it here. We’re all imperfect humans who are fighting the same battle. So please, cut the crap and go straight to your point. Learn to treat people the way you want to be treated.