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Why Modern Dating Is So Difficult For Those Of Us Who Are Looking For The Real Thing


Why is it so hard to find something real nowadays?

Has the world gone completely mad?

It seems that if you’re looking for someone to have fun, or in other words have a casual, one-night sex in a bathroom and get wasted until you’re no longer aware of your surroundings, then yes you can find a date. Plus, I assure you, it will be stress-free because remember, the rule is – No strings attached!

But, if you’re like me and those few other people who are struggling to survive this madness, then good luck on your journey. Finding something real in the 21st century is equal to finding a lost needle in a bag of hay.

Modern dating has officially destroyed our last hopes of finding something real.

I don’t even know where should I start.

Should I mention the lack of honesty among people, or should I start talking about how bitter and self-absorbed we all are?

Nothing is real anymore. If you want to get someone’s attention, you have to pretend like you don’t care about them. Revealing information or emotions too soon will probably sabotage your quest. Because God forbid you actually open up and really show your true colors to another human being. You do that – you’re immediately labeled as a needy and an overly-attached person.

Well, to hell with it. I will do whatever the hell I want. I will be emotionally whorey if I want to, but you won’t change who I am. Your twisted values won’t make me just another brick in the wall.

Don’t you feel like we’re doing something wrong here?

Instead of paying attention to the person next to us, we waste our time pointlessly scrolling through our Insta feed, writing angry Facebook statutes, and updating our profile pictures. Instead of asking someone out in person, we swipe right on Tinder. Instead of putting our best efforts to sort things out with the people we love, we find it easier to just give up. Instead of having an open conversation about our relationship status, we simply don’t reply for days. Instead of showing genuine interest, we show apathy.

So, tell me who is wrong here?

Is it us, the people who only wish to find a normal, decent human being capable of loving?

Or, is it our society, who have hurt and destroyed the last generations of people with true values?

I’m sick and tired of being told that I have to settle for someone just, so I don’t end up alone. I’m sick and tired of being forced to accept the reality. I’m sick and tired of pretending like this isn’t affecting me.

You won’t take away my faith. You won’t rob me of my dreams. I won’t let you destroy my hopes. And I simply won’t let you delete my emotions.

I may be stuck in the wrong century, but as long as I breathe and I live, I will never stop searching for something real!