You are going through your day, and suddenly you can’t breathe. You can’t understand why but you feel like you are drowning, and there is no one around to help you. No matter how loud you scream, no one hears you. You are all alone, losing your breath and fighting on your own.
This is anxiety. Anxiety becomes a big (painful) part of your life. It consumes you. It makes you feel powerless and scared for your life.
If you are a woman suffering from anxiety, you probably have your guards up high. You are always on the edge, worrying and feeling scared that something bad is going to happen.
This is why you love differently from other women. When you are in love, you love wholeheartedly. You love your partner so much that he becomes your only one, your shelter from the world, and your safe place.
This is how every woman with anxiety loves differently:
SHE NEEDS CONSTANT REASSURANCE.
She needs a patient lover. She needs someone who would not get irritated when she asks him 12 times if he will leave her. Her anxiety sometimes gets the best of her and she needs constant reminders that he loves her and that he won’t abandon her.
And when she asks him to repeat himself time and time again, this is not because she doesn’t trust him. She does. But when her anxiety strikes in, the only way to calm down is for her partner to reassure her that he is not leaving anywhere. That he will always be by her side.
SHE NEEDS TO FEEL SAFE.
Are you someone who is overprotective? Excellent. A woman with anxiety needs to feel secure in the relationship every single time. Even though she can be independent, she still needs someone to take care of her. She needs to know that her loved one cares for her as much as she cares for him.
Because a woman living with anxiety doesn’t want a random love. She wants a partner who will be her safe place when the world gets too heavy for her. And she will be his safety net also, she will always be there for him, believing and supporting him.
SHE FORMS DEEP BONDS.
She will be always true to her partner because she is true to herself. She is not faking anything. When she feels happy, she glows. When she is sad, she is falling apart. Her partner can always tell what she is feeling because every emotion is showing on her face.
This is why she forms deep bonds with the people in her life. She hasn’t got many friends, but the few ones she has – they know her heart and soul. When she allows someone in her life, she does it with her whole heart and she will do anything for them.
SHE WILL LOVE YOU LIKE NO ONE ELSE.
She can be a little too much at times. But, she will love you like no one has ever loved you before. And you can be sure that her love is real. You mean more to her than just a romantic partner. You become her confidant, protector, calmer, and lover.
And she will always make you feel loved and will try anything to make you feel happy and appreciated.
Anxiety is a disorder that controls your heart and body. Hearing the words ‘we need to talk’ can throw the person suffering from anxiety in flight-or-fight mode. ‘I need to figure out what I want in life’ rips their hearts.
Breakups are hard for anyone, but when it comes to a person fighting anxiety they can be devastating. Losing someone that she trusted and loved with her whole being can really feel like death to her.
So, be careful if you are dating a girl with anxiety. If you are not ready for the intensity of her love, please don’t even start anything with her.
Mary Wright is a professional writer with more than 10 years of incessant practice. Her topics of interest gravitate around the fields of the human mind and the interpersonal relationships of people.