One of the hardest things to cope with would be the fact that sometimes there will be people who wouldn’t want to be a part of our life. No matter what we do, and no matter how hard we try to make them stay, they’ll keep sliding away.
And after a while, one crucial question hits us on the head and strikes our curiosity. Should I fight for them or should I let them go?
Chasing and going after a person you like is considered as the most trending game of hard to get. Fighting for someone signifies that you’re ready to sacrifice yourself for that person and is a proof of loving commitment towards them.
People often say that we should indeed fight hard for the people we care about. That we should walk the extra mile for those special people.
However, this can easily lose every meaning when the chasing itself evolves into a tiring routine. The moment when the fighting becomes just another bad relationship pattern.
I’ve had several relationships in life, both friendships and romantic affairs in which I kind of had a feeling that all the work that was done was by me, only. I felt like I was the one person that is making the relationship work.
Still, I never asked for people to bend over backward for me. All I ever wanted to see is just a little speck of effort, even the slightest gesture, a sign that they considered me as important to them as they were to me.
People, no one wants to wait around for someone’s attention!
At least, not everyone has the time and energy to waste it on individuals who are not worth it. Personally, I, don’t want to keep being interested in every part of someone’s life and not get the same in return. I don’t want to keep pushing my way into someone’s life.
I don’t want to be the only one to remember to call them after a long time when they didn’t even bother to call me and ask me how my day went. I don’t want to force anything.
Because when two people want to be together, there will never be a decent excuse which can prevent that. Because relationships manage to stay alive only because both sides made their best effort to maintain it that way.
They fought side by side. And they’ll keep fighting for each other because that is the only way to make a relationship work. Excuses are illusions. Illusions for something we’re clearly not able to do.
Remember: When there is will, there will always be a way!
Unfortunately, I struggled some time until I learned that I NEED TO LET GO. People will ultimately do as they please and there’s not a damn thing I can do about it.
So, I came to terms with myself. I learned that I can’t prevent people from behaving selfishly, but the thing I can do is to carefully examine to whom I give my time and energy.
I’ve grown and realized I should value myself the most. I don’t need anyone who doesn’t need me. I’m done with the chase. And no, I’m not self-centered. I expect from others to treat me the way I treat them. Simple as that.
And while it’s not easy to simply walk away and move on with your life after investing everything you had in the relationship, I know I would never again beg a person to be in my life if they don’t want to be. And neither should you.
Keep in mind that if someone wants to be with you, there won’t be any unresolved enigmas and games to play in order to do it. Every piece of the puzzle will fall into a perfect place because you two will make it happen!
So, please, preserve your love and energy only for the right ones. Because you deserve to feel happy, and you deserve to feel loved. Anything less than that is not worth it!
A professional writer with many years of experience in the fields of psychology, human relationships, science, and spirituality.