Whatever you think the reasons are for him not paying enough attention to you, they aren’t. If you, the one who is reading this article, are confused, disappointed and exhausted from deciphering his actions and you desperately need answers for his behavior, I’m really glad you knocked on this door.
Welcome and make yourself at home.
The things you’re about to read in the following paragraphs might be a tough pill for you to swallow, but I’ve always figured that in life, it’s “better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie”.
I know that it’s probably hard for you to explain the reality in which you live in. I know that it’s really difficult to go back to that initial moment and try to find the reason for falling in love with him. But, it is fine.
Don’t beat yourself up. It’s true, you and only you are responsible for that mistake. But, it is also you who are responsible for correcting that mistake. You are the only person who can help yourself.
So, listen to me.
If a man truly wants you in his life, he will do everything in his power to keep you. If he really wants you as he says, he will pursue you. He will bend over backward, he will face many obstacles, he will get rid of the things that bother you, he will change, but he will do the necessary to keep you in his life.
Because men love the chase. Especially when the woman they’re after is the woman of their dreams. In that case, they are unstoppable. They would never give up on pursuing you.
It’s really that simple. When men want something, they go after it.
But, when they’re not that into you, well… They make plenty of excuses as to why they’re not right there beside you, but rather somewhere else.
They’re busy, they’re swamped with work, they’re tired, they already have a guy’s night planned, they fell asleep and forgot to call you, they’re taking a shower, their car is broken, they have a family dinner, they…
There’s always something. And it’s always something urgent, something that needs to be done exactly in those rare moments when they are supposed to spend some quality time with you. Everything seems like it’s more important than you.
And let me tell you the truth. Everything is probably more important than you.
Because if you were his top priority, and he was completely into you, he would have done everything to pursue you and keep you beside him. If he was really in love with you like he says, he wouldn’t have misled you with his confusing messages. If he was truly devoted to you, he wouldn’t have made stupid excuses. He would have done everything to be with you and pay attention only to you.
So, please don’t be that woman who lets him get away with this. Don’t be just another notch in his bedpost. Don’t be a part of his game. Don’t get carried away by his sugar-coated lies.
HE is just NOT THAT into YOU. Get that through your head and accept the bitter truth.
He’s simply not the one for you. Let him go.
A better person will come along and recognize your pure soul and beauty. He will show you what it feels to be loved and he will choose you each and every day, all over again. That day may seem like it’s far away, but I promise you, it will come.
In the meantime, you have to learn to love and respect yourself. You have to find the strength within you to let go of everything and everyone that hurts you and focus on your wellbeing. Be alone and make time for yourself. Take good care of yourself, and let everything else will take care of itself.
A professional writer with many years of experience in the fields of psychology, human relationships, science, and spirituality.