Love isn’t what you say, it’s what you do. Actions speak louder than words. Yes, you’ve heard this. It’s possibly a cliche. But it’s the ultimate truth. We, humans, need to start looking for actions instead of paying attention to words just because they sound nice when we hear them. Nice and soothing.
We get our hopes up for people who do much of the talking but stop there. You have to stop vouching for friends who are there when they need you, but not when you need them. Friends who say they are there for you and they want only the best for you, but cross you over behind your back. They compete with you, they envy you, they gossip about you with others; they expose your deepest insecurities in front of people you are not comfortable or close with and then say they were only kidding.
Friends who only hang out with you because their partner is working late or because they have a favor to ask. Why do you give them so much power over you? Why do you let them in? They strip your soul naked and make you feel used and insecure. Vulnerable.
Remember, friends, support each other and listen to each other’s problems. They are the happiest when you’ve achieved a dream of yours and they get drunk with you or eat tons of ice cream when you are feeling down, so you move over hardships a little easier. If you are not getting the same investment in return, why are you still friends with them?
Why do you let abusive partners strip your soul naked on a whole other level, why do you give them the power?
Love is the same as friendship. If you hear people talk much but ghost when they have to walk that talk, it means something is off.
I mean, sure, we’ve all hurt someone. We’ve all said we cared when we truly didn’t, we’ve all said we are busy working when in fact we just wanted to chill at home by ourselves. Selfish, I know. But it’s true. You are allowed to be a bad friend sometimes, a bad partner, a bad coworker, or a bad parent, but you cannot get too comfortable. You have to try to improve. You have to push those limits to prove to somebody just how much they mean to you.
You cannot get too comfortable because love and friendship aren’t what you say, they are what you do and when you truly care, you will do everything to show it. If the person you care for hasn’t, it might be just the right time to shut that door. In their face. And seal it.
Nora Connel is a devoted writer with a BA in English Language and Literature. Her interests span around psychology, human relationships, and the inner self. She believes that writing has healing powers.