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This Goes To The Girl Who Thinks She Isn’t Good Enough


When you make a decision to leave someone and make them a part of your past, pay attention to what you say to that person. When you say your final goodbye, think twice about how you’re going to do that. Think twice about what words you’re going to use.

Because words have power. Because once you say them aloud, you can’t take them back. Because words can kill someone’s happiness, strength, and hopes.

You see, there’s this girl who looks pretty normal on the outside. She’s smart and beautiful. She looks self-confident, fulfilled, and happy. She appears like she doesn’t have a single care on her mind.

Yet, her real life is a completely different story.

She looks confident and happy on the outside, but underneath that strong exterior, there’s a person who is struggling to accept her insecurities, fears, and mistakes. A person who thinks she is not good enough. A person who feels empty and lost.

She is smart and beautiful to some and to others not so much. Some like her and others not so much. But none of this would be important to her, if she felt good in her own skin. If she was good enough for herself.

But, tell me, how can someone love and value themselves when they’ve spent their entire life being told they were unworthy?

How can you accept and appreciate yourself the way you are when the person who means the world to you doesn’t miss a day to remind you how useless, dumb, and unworthy you are?

When the person you love the most and make your top priority doesn’t bother to choose you?

You know, when someone you truly love and care about treats you and makes you feel like you’re unimportant day after day, no matter how strong you may think you are, there will always be words of doubt hovering over your head telling you: you’re weak, you’re not good enough.

And this is exactly what happened to her.

She gave her heart to someone who didn’t know what to do with it. She completely devoted herself to someone who didn’t even bother to pay attention to her. Someone who didn’t know how to respond to and appreciate her kindness, compassion, patience, love, and commitment.

She loved and trusted someone who didn’t want to admit that she was better than him and that he didn’t deserve her. Someone who treated her like she was just an option to him and nothing else.

But, I suppose that’s the price you pay when you give your heart and soul to someone who is still not ready to commit to you.

I guess that’s how you get weakened and defeated. That’s how your happiness and hopes get crushed.

So, is it now easier for you to understand how this girl feels?

Today she can’t find the courage to move on with her life. Today she can’t find the strength within herself to be her old self again.

She knows she has many battles to fight to be the person she once was, but she feels exhausted and weak. She feels confused and lost.

She feels like nothing she does is ever good enough. She doubts her feelings, her thoughts, her decisions. She doubts every step she makes.

She feels like she’s no longer in control of her life.

She doubts and blames herself.

She blames herself for everything she is and for everything she’s been through. She keeps asking herself whether she would be better off today if she’d been smarter, funnier, and more interesting. If she’d laughed more and done more of what was expected from her.

She blames herself for every person who left her.

People often say she’s negative and lazy, but that’s not true. She’s been knocked down by life so many times that she neither has the strength nor the idea how to get up and move forward. She feels like she’s trapped in a black hole and it’s really hard for her to find the way out on her own.

All she needs is someone who will believe in her. Someone who will encourage her to make the first step towards her freedom and happiness.

She needs someone who will remind her of her worth. Someone who will be there to catch her if she falls again.

She needs someone who will remind her that not every person she likes is good. That not everyone deserves her trust and love. That not everyone is worthy of her tears. That pain doesn’t last forever and that she mustn’t lose hope.

She needs a man who will accept and cherish her the way she is. A man who won’t expect her to prove herself. A man who will let her know that she doesn’t need to seek other people’s validation because she’s more than good enough. She’s perfect the way she is.

She deserves a man who will give her everything she craves and more.

So, please, when you meet this woman, show her that you truly believe she’s more than good enough. Show her how much she means to you. Tell her that her insecurities, fears, and mistakes don’t and can’t determine her worth.

Be kind to her. Be gentle and loving.

Be patient with her and help her recover. Because when she does that, you’ll see she was worth all the effort.

Show her that she can rely on you for anything and that you’ll always be there for her.

And most importantly, show her that there’s a strong, fearless, amazing woman inside of her – a woman who is more than ready to embrace life, love, and be loved.