To All Of You Exhausted And Fragile Souls Who Feel Like You Are Falling Behind In Life

Listen to me.

I know that you feel like you are not doing much, I get that. I am familiar with that feeling. I know that you feel like you desperately cannot find motivation, no matter how much you are looking for it. I can see it in your eyes. I know it all.

The truth is, you don’t need motivation. You don’t lack inspiration.  You just need time to unwind and find yourself. You need space to relax and let every emotion flow through you. Stop making endless lists which we all know you won’t finish. Stop scrolling through Instagram and Pinterest looking for tutorials on how to get yourself going. Accept the fact that you don’t have the strength to do all that you wanted right now. Accept the fact that you need rest. You need to stop running around in circles and… just breathe.

I know it’s hard for you to give yourself permission to do whatever the f*ck you want. I know it is because you are too afraid what the world would say about you. But I am here to help you. You are allowed to be who you are. Even if that makes you the laziest, crankiest and most unproductive person today.

Let’s get one thing straight. You, my friend, are not a robot. You cannot just decide that you are going to do something today and expect that your body will immediately follow up. I mean, I know that determination and hard work is what makes dream come true. But you are just a human being. A creature made of flesh and blood and a pounding heart. A person who cannot always control what they feel. So, allow yourself to feel that. Whatever it is.

We think that the older we are, the more power we have over our lives. We think that we are almighty. But we are wrong. We cannot control everything. This is life. It is happening when you least expect it. It brings you up for a second only to put you down for the next few moments. It’s an unpredictable and crazy ride. But that is the beauty of it.

You are writing a novel even when you think you aren’t. The fact that you are not as productive as you want to be doesn’t mean that your work doesn’t matter. The fact that everyone else is ahead of you doesn’t mean that you are falling behind in life. They are writing their own novels at their own pace. That has nothing to do with your story.

So, know this. No matter how much you try to manipulate your life or force yourself to do something that you are clearly not capable of doing at this moment, the game of life is out of your hands. You simply can’t control it. You may try to predict what happens tomorrow, but no one can tell for sure whether it will certainly happen.

Can’t you see that you are slowly missing out on your life?

Stop beating yourself up and forgive yourself. You are not doing anything wrong. You are just living your own life the way you know. You don’t need inspiration. You just need to stop feeling less because you are not doing your best. You don’t need to listen to what others have to say about your life, because in the end, what they say has nothing to do with who you are.  

I know that it feels like you are in a very dark place. But, let me tell you something.

The darkest hour of the night comes just before the dawn.

Chin up darling, you’ve got this!