We live in a time in which single women are pitied for not having a partner, and they are usually portrayed as unhappy, unfulfilled, isolated, and lonely.
But the truth is that when it comes to women and their love life, being in a relationship should not be regarded as a criterion for happiness.
Why Should You Stay Single?
Because single women don’t base their happiness and success on their relationship status.
Because women who stay single for a large period of time aren’t unhappy, lonely, miserable, or emotionally troubled. (1)
Because they don’t need a partner so as to feel happy and fulfilled – they already feel this way.
Because they defy the modern stereotypes that say they should feel bad and less worthy for not having a romantic partner.
Is Staying Single A Good Idea?
What many people think about single women is that they’re unhappy and spend most of their time complaining about their relationship status. But rarely do we think about the countless benefits one can reap from rolling solo, and in what follows, we’ve presented 7 benefits of being single.
1. You have more space to spend quality time with your friends.
In addition to giving you the opportunity to spend quality time with your friends, being single provides you with the opportunity to make friends with single people that can relate to your present circumstances and be a great support system.
2. You learn about yourself.
When you’re single, you have plenty of space to reflect on your likes, dislikes, emotional needs, desires, values, priorities, ambitions, and goals in life. You also have plenty of space to practice hobbies and do activities you’ve been avoiding trying, as well as reconnect with yourself and accept your authentic self.
And last but not least, you have plenty of space to figure out what you need in life in order to become a whole and emotionally fulfilled person prior to sharing your life with someone else.
3. You have more time to figure out where you want to be in life.
Being single gives you a chance to figure out what you need and value in life, as well as what you stand for. It also gives you a chance to figure out what kind of person you want to be and what attitudes your need to adopt, or what changes you need to make to become that person. It simply gives you a chance to get in touch with yourself.
4. You learn to be happy and content in your own company.
What many people associate being single with is being lonely. But these two things don’t need to be always synonymous.
When you’re single, you can learn many new things about yourself, including the fact that you can be happy in your own company. And once you learn to enjoy your own company, you’ll be more careful what kind of people you let into your life. You will want to spend time with just those people that contribute to your happiness and overall well-being and make your life better.
5. You prioritize self-care.
When you’re in a relationship, you can push aside certain areas of your life, such as hanging out with friends, spending time alone, exercising, and focusing on your goals and ambitions, to devote fully to your partner. When you’re single, you can give all of these areas the attention they require because there’s no such thing that prevents you from focusing on your own self-care and personal growth.
6. You become more financially responsible.
Being single allows you to become more financially responsible and resourceful since you’re learning how to cover your expenses without depending on someone else. This can benefit both your life and career.
7. You become more confident.
Being single gives you a chance to explore your inner strengths, which, in turn, boosts your self-confidence. When single, you learn that instead of always relying on someone else for emotional or financial support, you can rely on yourself for whatever you need in life.
Can You Stay Happy Single?
If you ask me, there are two types of people: those that don’t enjoy rolling solo and those that do. If you belong to the first category, being single can be tough, especially when it appears that everyone in your life is in a relationship. But being single can be a good thing and a source of genuine happiness if you allow it, and in what follows, we’ve presented a few tips on how to be happy and content single.
Here they are:
1. Spend time with your loved ones.
Connecting with your friends and family is very important when you’re single. Having someone, you can hang out and have fun with when single will prevent you from feeling lonely as well as boost your mood when feeling down. In addition to being your greatest support system, your loved ones are the people who love and care about you the most and who are always there to remind you that your happiness does not depend on your relationship status.
2. Take classes or join groups.
When you’re single, you have countless free afternoons, evenings, and weekends. So, use that free time to join a recreational sports team, take a course in painting, Spanish, or any other language, or practice a hobby. Being single gives you the opportunity to explore activities that bring a sense of fulfillment and joy into your life.
3. “Be in a relationship with” yourself.
Being single offers you the opportunity to “date” yourself and love yourself as much as you would love your partner if you were in a relationship.
So, treat yourself the way you’d treat a significant other. Buy yourself presents, cherish yourself, focus on yourself, take yourself out to dinner, go on weekend trips alone or with friends. Take the time to connect with yourself and sort out your priorities.
4. Learn about yourself.
When you’re single, you have plenty of time to focus on your emotions, needs, and desires, sort out your priorities, and listen to your inner voice. Learning about yourself provides you with a better insight into what you really want from your life. Learning about yourself also offers you the opportunity to see if you’re displaying any behaviors that might be preventing you from creating the life that you want to live.
5. Establish goals and do your best to achieve them.
Being single gives you the opportunity to figure out what you want to achieve in life. So, set clear goals and be willing to invest time and energy in accomplishing them. Pursuing your goals will enable you to grow, both personally and professionally.
6. Prioritize your own self-care.
Look after your physical and mental health. Eat healthy food, work out, spend more time in nature, and read books. Take the time to do anything that will make you feel and look healthy and happy inside and out.
7. Reflect on what you want from a relationship.
Take the time to figure out what type of partner you want to be in a relationship with, and reflect on your expectations as well as how you want to be treated in a relationship. Also, do the work to be the person you want to be in a relationship so that when the right person appears, you can be able to build a healthy and meaningful relationship with them.
8. Remind yourself that you won’t be single forever.
The person you’ll be able to connect with on a deep emotional and spiritual level will come into your life sooner or later. And while relationships can be amazing and inspiring, rarely do we think about all the sacrifices we’re required to make when in a relationship. So, try to make the most of your life rolling solo while you still have the chance.
As for the reasons why some women remain single for large gaps of time, well, there are plenty of them.
Maybe they aren’t accustomed to being someone’s ‘girlfriend’, and perhaps they were even single during their high-school years.
Maybe they’ve had a couple of exes who abandoned them and broke their hearts.
Maybe they went out on a couple of dates since they broke up with their last boyfriend, but the dates never turned into exclusive romantic relationships.
Or perhaps they’ve decided to stay single because they needed a break from the overwhelming dating world.
Stay Single Be Happy
Irrespective of the reason, women who stay single for a large amount of time end up the happiest, and here’s why:
They end up the happiest since they embrace their solitude. They’re comfortable with who they are. They don’t mind going shopping for clothes alone or eating lunch at their favorite restaurant by themselves.
They don’t feel lonely sleeping alone. They don’t feel awkward about going to weddings by themselves.
They don’t feel unhappy or lonely just because they don’t have a romantic partner to share their experiences with – they’re comfortable with their solitude and enjoy their own company.
They end up the happiest since they have plenty of time to focus on their needs, goals, and passions. They have all the time in the world to figure out what they truly need and want in life and go for it as well.
They end up the happiest since they pursue their goals, dreams, and passions instead of giving upon them. They have plenty of time to figure out what’s important to them in life and sort out their priorities.
They end up the happiest since they get more connected to their friends, family, and co-workers. They stay close to them, not drift apart.
They end up the happiest since they embrace their independence. They’re able to take care of themselves and make a living on their own. They believe in themselves, and they’re able to build a happy, meaningful, enjoyable life for themselves.
They end up the happiest since they understand that a romantic partner does not need to be the center of their world. He does not need to be the only thing they think about.
Instead of spending their time chasing after guys, these women chase after the things they want to achieve in life and the future they want for themselves.
Women who don’t date anyone for large periods of time aren’t scared of the idea of staying single forever or never getting married – they are used to living their lives that way.
Spending their lives alone or in silence doesn’t make them feel afraid or lonely – moreover, they enjoy living this way. To them, solitude is not frightening – it’s inspiring.
And if they do meet someone and decide to start a relationship, it is going to be someone who encourages them to achieve even more happiness and success. Someone who is already happy, fulfilled, and successful on his own. Someone who is as smart and strong as they are and someone who is able to keep up with them in every aspect of life.
It’s going to be someone that feels happy that his woman has her own goals, plans, dreams, and passions and that she’s in control of her life. Someone who feels happy when she achieves her goals and also encourages her to pursue higher ones. Someone who makes her feel stronger, happier, and more fulfilled than she already is.
Because these women will never give up on their independence, individuality, and strength. They’ll never give up on their goals, dreams, and desires and forget who they are in the process of loving someone.
They’ll never be with someone who might prevent them from living an authentic, genuinely happy, and meaningful life.
Is It Okay To Be Single At 30?
While many consider 30 to be the age at which women should be coupled up or married and have children, being single at 30 is totally fine and, in fact, it can be the most wonderful experience you can ever have in life.
In what follows, we’ve presented 30 reasons why it’s okay to fly solo at 30.
1. You have more time to focus on your personal development and career.
2. You can have fun with your girlfriends for as long as you want.
3. You have more space to spend quality time with your family.
4. You realize that spending time alone is no longer scary.
5. Being married changes everything.
6. You have more time to meet new people.
7. You can be in a relationship with any man you want.
8. You’re more experienced and know what red flags you should look out for in a relationship.
9. You’re at an age when true happiness begins.
10. Your friendships get more solid.
11. You can do whatever you want.
12. You don’t have obligations that married women have.
13. You have more time to figure out what things you need to change about yourself to be a better partner.
14. Your time is really yours.
15. You can travel wherever you want, whenever you want.
16. No one questions your choices and decisions anymore.
17. You can spend your 30s pursuing your career goals, traveling anywhere you want, and enjoying life.
18. It’s easier for you to say ‘no” to men and experiences that you aren’t interested in.
19. You no longer take it to heart when others ask you why you haven’t tied the knot yet.
20. You have more time to get to know yourself.
21. You understand your own sexuality.
22. You have most likely conquered your fears and handled issues that were holding you back.
23. You no longer have to share your bed, closet, or bathroom with anyone else.
24. You no longer have to buy expensive gifts.
25. You learn to make a difference between s*x and real, pure love.
26. Having children is still an option.
27. Dating is less stressful and more honest.
28. You get to keep your home the way you want.
29. You’ve had the chance to learn from other women’s mistakes regarding dating.
30. The best is yet to come.
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