Life is not a smooth journey, neither a bed of roses. Life can throw our way tough, life-changing challenges and obstacles when we expect it the least. It can throw our way pains that will knock us down and break our heart – pains that will scar us for life.
But out of all pains that one can experience, the most intense, difficult, and heart-wrenching is a breakup. And not any kind of breakup – but the one in which someone decides that you aren’t the right person for them. That you aren’t their perfect match. That you aren’t their soulmate. That you aren’t ‘The One.’
Yes, there’s nothing more heart-breaking than realizing that the person you loved with every fiber of your being doesn’t feel the same way about you. There’s nothing more painful than ending a relationship that you thought was going to last forever. There’s nothing more hurtful than realizing that you aren’t ‘The One.’
But, when someone heartlessly decides to break up with you and cut you out of their life, don’t let them make you question yourself. Don’t let them make you doubt your qualities and strength. Don’t let them make you doubt your worth and grandeur.
When a person decides that you aren’t the right person for them, respect yourself enough to back off and focus on yourself. Don’t start an argument with them. Don’t hang on to them. Don’t beg for their attention and love. Don’t try to convince them that they’re wrong. Don’t search for reasons as to why they broke up with you. Instead, try to find a way to understand their decision and that it was never about you.
When someone tells you that they don’t love you anymore, don’t blame yourself. Don’t feel sorry for yourself. Instead, accept their decision the way it is and tell yourself that it is fine not to be someone’s choice. It is fine to make a mistake when it comes to choosing your partner. It is fine to fail at love time and time again.
When a person decides that you aren’t ‘The One,’ don’t let the sorrow break you. Don’t let the despair shatter your hope. Don’t dwell on the pain, but don’t ignore it either. Just allow yourself to feel the sadness and bitterness that move through every part of you. Cry if you want to, shout if you want to, just don’t allow the pain to take you down the gutter.
When a person decides to break up with you and remove you from their life, don’t let this shatter your self-esteem. Instead, accept the fact that this is their decision. It’s a decision they base on their own perspective and beliefs, and nothing else. It’s a decision that is solely about them and that doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with you or that you are unlovable.
I know it hurts, but when someone tells you that you aren’t ‘The One,’ you don’t let this break you. Instead, you do your best to find a way to focus on your own happiness and inner peace and let go of them. You try to remember who you were before they entered your life. You remind yourself of all the moments you felt fulfilled, confident, strong, happy, and free.
I know that letting go of someone that you loved wholeheartedly and unconditionally is hard and painful. But, what you should remember is that your happiness and peace don’t and can’t depend on anyone. You’re the only one who is responsible for them. You’re the only one who gets to direct the course of your life.
Therefore, when someone tells you that you aren’t the right person for them, give yourself some time to grieve, cry, and process the grief. But, after a while, do your best to pick yourself up, shake the pain, and move on. Find the strength to focus on your own needs, priorities, and desires. Pluck up the courage to resist calling them or texting them. Show the willingness to protect your dignity. Practice self-love and self-respect.
When someone tells you that they no longer want you to be a part of their life, do the same – remove them from your life. Let go of them. Thank them for setting you free. Choose a new direction in life. Look for genuine love and happiness elsewhere. Live your life feeling comfortable in your own skin. Don’t rush things – just let them be.
And remember – your relationship status doesn’t define your happiness and worth.
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