6 Mistakes You Need To Avoid Making After You End A Relationship With Someone

Regardless of whether you’ve been in a relationship with someone for 5 months or 5 years, breakups are generally difficult and nobody likes them. Breaking up with someone who treated you badly can bring you a sense of relief. But if you’re putting an end to a relationship in which you were emotionally invested a lot, the period that comes after the breakup can be quite hard and painful and it can take you a great amount of time to get over it.

During the post-breakup period, there are going to be moments of wondering if you made the right decision. There are going to be moments of wishing to get back together with your ex. There are going to be moments when you have to search for your inner strength and courage so as to begin to trust and love someone again.

So, the real question is: How can you make your breakup recovery easier?

Well, in what follows, there are 6 mistakes you need to avoid making after you end a relationship with someone. In this way, you will help yourself heal your emotional wounds and move forward faster.

1. Trying to punish your ex-partner.

Let’s assume that your ex-lover is an inconsiderate, selfish, awful person. They lied to you, cheated on you, and ghosted you. So, when you break up with them, you’ll probably feel a strong, irresistible urge to take your revenge on them.

But, the truth is that making your ex pay for the way they treated you won’t make you feel any better or speed your breakup recovery. Instead, it’ll only prolong your feelings of disappointment, bitterness, and resentment.

2. Justifying your feelings.

When you end a relationship, your ex-partner might try to get you to explain the reasons why you’re breaking up with them. Know that while being completely honest and direct with your ex about why you’re ending the relationship with them will do both of you good, trying to justify your feelings or the relationship won’t be productive at all.

Instead of going into painful and needless details, make sure you give your ex clear, sound, and valid reasons for your decision to break up with them.

3. Thinking about getting back together with your ex.

It’s normal for you to think about your ex-partner and revive memories of both happy and sad moments you spent together after you break up with them. You’ll probably think about how great it would be if both of you gave your relationship one more chance and that the reasons why you split up weren’t that “grave” in the first place.

But, what you should do is ask yourself whether you really want to get back together with your ex because you truly love them and believe that things will be better between you this time or because you are desperately trying to return to your comfort zone. Oh, and let’s not forget another reason why you might want to get back together with your ex – your fear of being alone.

Remember – if you broke up with someone, that was because you had strong, sufficient, and justifiable reasons to do that in the first place.

4. Trying to get in contact with your ex.

Breaking up with someone means deciding to break off any contact whatsoever with them. Because the truth is that there’s no point in texting or calling your ex-partner only to “check what they’re doing with their life.”

Trying to get in contact with your ex-lover will only create mixed feelings and even confusion as it may lead your ex to think that you want to get back together with them.

Therefore, if you want to get over your ex and move on more easily and faster, going no contact is the best thing you can do.

5. Worrying about your and your ex-partner’s mutual friends.

You’ve decided to end your relationship with your partner and then you realize that you two are friends with the same people. So, you’ll probably begin to wonder which friends will support you and which friends will begin ignoring you or even stop being friends with you.

While it’s true that this may be a complex, difficult problem that you’ll have to deal with, it’s also true that friendships are not a part of romantic relationships. So, if your friends get mad at you and decide to stay with your ex and not you, then you can take this as a sign that they were never your true friends, to begin with.

And if you don’t lose any of your friends, then this means that you’ll have a shoulder to cry on and someone who will listen to you venting about your problems and talking about your emotional pain during the first few months after the breakup.

6. Jumping into a new relationship immediately after the breakup.

This is a definite no-no. Entering a relationship with another person when you still haven’t healed your emotional wounds completely and finished grieving for your last relationship is a bad idea.

Because this means that you’re starting a new relationship into which you’ll bring all your past pain, disappointment, and negative feelings. It means you’re starting a relationship that’s doomed to fail.