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Being With The Wrong Person Turns You Into Someone You Can’t Stand To Look At In The Mirror

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When you’re with the right person, you get to learn what true, pure, deep, unconditional love is. You get to learn what a healthy, strong, happy, and committed relationship means.

When you’re with the right person, you’re with someone who makes you his/her choice every day. Someone who reciprocates your love. Someone who treats you with kindness, compassion, and dignity. 

When you’re with the right person, you’re with someone who accepts and cherishes you for who you are. Someone who brings out the best in you and inspires you to grow. Someone who believes in you and knows your worth.

When you’re with the right person, you’re with someone who reflects your own beliefs and values. Someone whose soul mirrors your own. Someone who knows you’re special. Someone who feels blessed to be loved by you. Someone who makes you love and appreciate yourself even more than you already do.

But, when you stay in a relationship with the wrong person for longer than you deserve, you gradually turn into someone you can’t stand to look at in the mirror. You turn into someone negative, jealous, and insecure.

Being with the wrong person pollutes your mind and changes the way you perceive dating. Things, such as manipulation, control, arguments, lies, and insults begin to appear normal to you. You forget what a healthy, meaningful, happy relationship is.

When you’re in a relationship with someone that makes you question their love for you, someone that makes you wonder where your relationship is headed, and someone that feeds your hope with lies and false excuses, you turn into a paranoid person.

You begin checking their phone to see if they have some “suspicious” messages. You begin checking their profile on social media to see who they interact with. You begin thinking that every girl/guy they say “Hi” to and smile at is someone they’re cheating on you with. Everyone and everything begin to appear suspicious to you.

When you’re in a relationship with someone with whom you have frequent angry fights, someone that gets angry with you about the simplest mistakes, someone that makes drama out of nothing, and someone who, instead of solving your relationship problems, creates more of them, you begin keeping your doubts, complainings, and problems to yourself.

Instead of telling them interesting, wonderful stories about your family, friendships, and career, you decide not to do this because they might get jealous. Instead of showing them what you bought your best friend for their birthday, you hide the present, although you bought it with your own money, since you fear they might fly off the handle. You simply feel like you’re walking on eggshells when you’re around them.

When you’re in a relationship with someone that thrives on drama, someone that thinks that being jealous 24/7 is romantic, and someone that tries to control you all the time, you begin thinking that “healthy,” “successful” relationships are based on constant arguments, shouts, and drama. You gradually become addicted to tension and constant, furious fights.

When you’re in a relationship with the wrong person, you turn into someone insecure. Someone who doesn’t believe in themselves. Someone who doubts their strength and qualities. Someone who can’t see their worth.

When you’re in a relationship with the wrong person, you start thinking that love is hard and painful. That you aren’t meant to be loved. That feeling cherished and appreciated by someone you love with all your heart is something you’ll never experience. That you’re unworthy of love.

But, that’s not true. You are worthy of love.

You deserve to be with someone who will reciprocate your love. Someone who will prove to you that love doesn’t always have to be hard and painful. Someone whom you’ll mean the world to. Someone who will fight for your happiness. Someone who will show you that you didn’t make a mistake choosing them. Someone who will be the right person for you.

Therefore, if you’re with the wrong person, know that you’re allowed to let go of them. You’re allowed to forgive yourself and search for true love and happiness elsewhere.

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