Dear You, If You Feel Like Love Is Escaping You, Please Read This

I know how you feel. I’ve felt that same restlessness in my soul. I’ve felt that same fear.

People say love will find you when you are ready. But when are we really ready?

There are moments when we feel that we are 100% open for it, yet it doesn’t happen.

That is exactly how you feel right now. I can see it in your smile, and I can feel it your touch. You feel ready to find the love of your life. In fact, you are eager to fall in love and experience that feeling for the first time in your life. But for some reason, it doesn’t happen.

For some reason, you are still alone. And you are scared. Scared that it will never happen to you. Scared that love will never find you.

Well, let me tell you something.

Love is not that simple as some people usually paint it to be. Love doesn’t always come when we are ready.

Sometimes, it is you that is the problem. Sometimes no matter how much you think that you are ready for it, you are not. You think that love is the only thing missing from your life, but deep inside you are afraid of showing your vulnerable self to another human being, so you unconsciously hide from the world. Sometimes reality has nothing to do with what your dreams are. And you realize that maybe you aren’t ready after all.

And sometimes, it is the opposite. You are ready, but they are not. They tell you how perfect and amazing you are, yet they don’t want to commit. They tell you that you are the best person someone could ever ask for, yet you can feel their distance. You can feel that they are only here for a while. You give, but you don’t receive anything in return.

I know that it seems like love is not meant to happen to you, but that is not true.

Love is not avoiding you. Love is not escaping you. Love is not passing you by.

Your expectations are destroying you.  Because, let’s face it, no matter how much we want to have everything under control, we cannot always control the timeline of our life. Life and love don’t always go according to our plans. From everything that I’ve experienced, they happen when you least expect it. They happen while you are busy making other plans.

So, stop pitying yourself and think for a second. 

Love is not escaping you; it is preparing you for what’s to come. It is giving you chances and opportunities from which you can learn many lessons before you take a leap of faith and fall for someone. It is letting you experience other things in your life. It is helping you fall in love with yourself and grow at your own pace. It is showing you how wonderful life can be when you don’t rush it.

So, stop rushing it. And stop despairing.

Everything that you are going through right now is exactly what you need in this moment.

Maybe you can’t understand that now, but there will come a day when things will become crystal clear. When that moment comes, you will realize that even though you may have waited for a long, in the end, it was all worth it.