Relationships are supposed to be about mutual respect, understanding, love, trust, and above all – exclusivity.
The thing is that when you are in a relationship with someone you love from the bottom of your heart, it isn’t too much to ask for both you and your relationship to be at the top of your partner’s list of priorities, or at least -somewhere close to the top.
Of course, there’re times when work, health, or family problems need to be your partner’s main priorities, but you still deserve to feel that he loves you and cares about you. You still deserve to feel cherished and important.
If you don’t want to end up hurt in a relationship, you need to always be honest with yourself.
Do you feel like he hides his relationship status? Is he still “single” on his Facebook profile? Does he rarely post selfies of you two on social media? Does he keep you waiting for him for hours to answer your calls and text you back? Do you feel like he refuses to commit to you?
Well, if you answered all of the questions above with a yes, then I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but he only sees you as an OPTION.
You’re just another fish in the sea. Another fling. Another temporary fun. And nothing else.
I know – it hurts. Realizing that you’re just an option for the man who’s always been your number one priority truly hurts. It hurts to the bone.
But, you need to wake up and accept the truth. You need to accept the truth that he only sees you as an option because he’s not invested in the relationship as you are.
He doesn’t invest the same amounts of time and energy in making your relationship deep and happy as you are. He doesn’t work hard to solve your relationship problems as you do. He doesn’t care about you the way you care about him.
He simply doesn’t love you with the same intensity you love him.
That’s why you need to STOP. You need to stop giving your heart to someone who is not worthy of your love. You need to stop devoting your time and energy to someone who doesn’t even deserve a second of your attention. You need to stop sacrificing and making compromises for someone that simply isn’t worth it.
You need to stop making a priority someone who only sees you as an option.
And no! I don’t want to hear about how sweet and loving he is when you are alone with him. I don’t want to hear about how he makes you laugh.
Because no matter how affectionate he is towards you when you are alone, he still treats you like you are his friend in front of his buddies. And no matter how he makes you laugh, there were countless times when he made you cry.
Girl, you need to wake up and embrace the harsh truth: HE’S NOT INTO YOU!
You need to stop thinking that he’ll change over time. You need to stop thinking that he’ll love you the way you love him. You need to stop thinking that he’ll make you his number one priority.
You need to stop thinking that he is in love with you and that he’s just afraid to commit to you.
You need to stop thinking that the reason why he doesn’t treat you the way you treat him is that there’s something wrong with you. That your weaknesses, fears, and imperfections prevent him from liking you more.
This is not true! Because if he loved you, if his heart beat for you the way yours beats for him, you would know it. He’d let you know it.
If he was genuinely in love with you, you wouldn’t have to question his feelings for you and wonder where your relationship is headed.
If he truly loved you, he wouldn’t hesitate or feel afraid to commit to you.
If you meant to him, if you were at the top of his list of priorities, he wouldn’t see you as an option. He wouldn’t string you along. He wouldn’t play with your feelings.
Girl, remember: If your man was honestly and deeply in love with you and if you really meant the world to him, you’d know it. You’d feel it in the depths of your being.
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